Friday, February 26, 2016

How To Break Out After A Break Up! Special Edition



I know it's a sad story but sometimes things don't workout and two people who couldn't get enough of each other decide to go their separate ways.  So your probably wondering what you should do now?  Well, first your going to lick your wounds and that means giving yourself sometime to heal.  Spend sometime nurturing yourself, writing in your journal to clear your mind.  It's natural to go over and over in your mind how everything went so wrong that lead to you breaking up.  Go over it and then make a decision to get past it and get on with the good things God has in store for your life. 

Here are some things you can do while your getting back to fabulous you!
After a long work week, because it will seem long while your feeling a bit down and emotional. Do these things:

1. Get up Saturday morning and hit the gym!  A great Cardio workout will get those endorphins pumping and start off your weekend just right.

2.  Plan to go get a Mani/Pedi.  Getting pretty is never a bad idea.  It will make you feel better and you'll walk out looking terrific.

3. Get out with your girlfriends! You'll have lots of catching up to do since you were spending so much time with your now ex.  Because your friends love you they will be more than willing to get out with you for martini's, dancing and mingling with the opposite sex.

4. Treat Yourself!  Go and buy yourself something nice.  I'm not talking necessarily break the bank nice but something that will make you feel beautiful. 

5.  Last but not least get some rest.  It's hard enough dealing with your emotions but when your tired and sad that's a mixture for erratic behavior to do or say something crazy.

Also get back on Match.com.  It's time to start dating again.  Us girls don't have forever to just be sitting around holding the flame for someone who missed the bus.  Keep it moving.  You are amazing!

And I know it will be super hard but try not to call him.  Learn from my mistake, I called him because I thought somehow it would change things but it wont.  If someone wants you they will come for you and if they don't good riddens to bad rubbish.  It's because we forgot how Fabulous we were before we started dating this fool.  He forgot too.  Your silence will speak multitudes. 

I know your thinking that it sounds like a good idea but its not that easy.  Well I'm going to say this, you may not forget about him right away but day after day and week after week while your changing your behaviors and actively working towards happiness one day you will wake up and actually be HAPPY!  I know it's true because it happened to me.  I promise you'll come out better than you were before.  Your energy will draw in a waaay better man than before.  As Joel Osteen say's "God will give you beauty for those ashes."  It's True!

So its okay to cry and talk to your girlfriends about your feelings, get it out!  It's totally acceptable with what you've gone through.  But know when its time to stop the sadness and look in the mirror and see the "YOU" that deserves so much better.  Your on your way to your blessings.  Keep pushing forward your going to see the sunshine again in your heart and mind. 

Todays note:  Don't Forget God's Promise!

Affirmations:  Be Love. Never Stop Believing. You Are A Winner. You Are Beautiful!