Dating Long Distance: No or Go?

I'd like to hear what you think about dating long distance.  Is is a good idea?  How would you make it work?

Two's a Company, Three's a Crowd..

What happens when two people go out and the guys friend bum rushes the show?  Disaster!  Checkplease!  I went out with this guy to a sports bar in the South Loop.  It was going pretty well, good conversation, good eye contact.  Somewhere between the good conversation and his unwilling sarcasm his phone rang and he answered it.  Problem#1  If a guy answers the phone while on a date with you you can pretty much call it.  Im not use to something like this happening but apparently it does.  Like Santa Claus, You do exist!  LOL  Well first off its just rude.  You can stay at home and talk on the phone.  I was tempted to pull a "I really got tons to do so I'm gonna split.  But I hung ten and then his boy shows up like this was the only sports bar in the city of Chicago.  I was irritated and was ready to go.  And lets face it, a sports bar is NOT a real date.  I wont do it again ever.  Its really not me.  When he text a really stupid text the next day or so saying "Do you miss me yet?"  I was like ?  DELETE.  Remove silly emails and texts from men that have no value.  No value meaning nothing in it for you.  When I didnt respond to that he sent another really immature text that said, "What happened to you".  DELETE.  Anything other than a phone call is just a waste of time.  Dont fool yourself into believing it doesnt matter.  It absolutely does!  Go out there and get what you want ladies!  Bonne Appetit!! And not at a Sports Bar.  :)

Is it okay for your man to frequent "Gentlemans Clubs"? Let us know your feelings.

I recently was invited to a Birthday Party by a male friend of mines.  He told me that we were only going to be there for about an hour and then we were going to a club in the South Loop.  He also let me know I could bring some friends with me and that it would be nice with free food and some drinks.  So with that I decided to invite two girlfriends out to meet me there. 

When we arrived there were naked women with there asses in the guys faces and dancing.  It was like a little apartment in a store front.  There had obviously been some renovation but none the less I was not impressed by the location.  The girls were not beauty queens or top of the line babes they were just some ghetto girls with no clothes on.  My first thought was "Im Blind"!  Oh God help me.  I'm thinking this cannot be good for my sex life.  Seeing other womens ta ta's has got to be bad luck.  I like MEN so I definitely was not prepared to see naked women.  I was a little pissed.  I floated through the 45 minutes we were there with a nervous laugh that kept me from making any eye contact with anyone in the place besides the people I knew.

It was clear to me that the men that were there didnt care if the women had degrees, were the cream of the crop or even had a real job.  They just wanted to be entertained some how by the opposite sex.  I thought it was quite sad and very upsetting that women would position themseleves in such a place that no one had an expectation of them because they were that lower life form. 

This is a gender issue that definitely needs further review.  It was quite disturbing.  I'd love to hear what others think about this.  Please leave your comments.

Amazon.com: BUPPIES (9781420896800): Kimberly Hawthorne: Books

Amazon.com: BUPPIES (9781420896800): Kimberly Hawthorne: Books

Do you find that when dating your picking the same guy over and over?

If you find that you are picking the same person over an over and failing you need to change your plan.  Do you know what its called whne you keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result?  Its called Insanity people!  Change up your game plan.  Make a list of what it is you want and dont want.  Don't stray from that list.  There is a wrong and a right way to date.  You can do this.  Stick to your plan and dont settle when youve gotten tired.  If you give up you give up on you and end up dating a duplicate of your ex. 
We can all learn from ourselves and others, post your experiences in this respect and how you did or didnt overcome it and if not whats going on now.   

How long should you date before having SEX?

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Should you date down?

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