Older or Younger?

There has definitely been a shift in the dating pool in regards to age.  I see younger guys with older women, younger women with older guys.  I can see how that may happen in our society where the world is in a dating frenzy.  The question is how old or how young is too much!

It makes since if you are talking about a 5-6 year difference speaking rationally in reference to adults.  But lets keep it real, if you are 35 you are not going to be checking for a 48 year old.  It just doesn't make any real sense.  My concern is that you'd run out of things to talk about considering the huge age gap.  Difference in lifestyles, life experiences and even fashion.  And don't try to pull off the premium jeans and your knocking on 60.  Well that's only if you don't have a banging body.  If you do you may be able to still pull that one off.  But I think we've seen some older men and women looking real crazy in stuff that just doesn't look right.

Not to mention the embarrassing looks and glances from your peers and strangers.  Whether you like it or not you are always the center of attention and a human spectacle to talk about.

Of course there is always that extra thing that may make you feel like "its okay".  He or she is totally loaded and willing to give you full access to everything they have.  But then you have to ask yourself are you willing to compromise your self-worth for a few coins.  Your body, youth and missed experiences all for a little change? Not to mention you better really like your new title: GOLD DIGGER and the laughs that will follow.  Its a tough choice especially if you chose an older mate without the bells and whistles.  Sorry to say that's a little crazy but again these are all life lessons. 

I'm interested in knowing what your main preference is in regards to age.  Do you think it matters and why? 
Look forward to hearing from you soon.  Leave us a message on the board.  We wanna know.  ;)

Surface or Substantial?

Whats important to you?  A fine body, dynamic smile, always dressed to impress.  Basically when you need to show off you know you need this person with you.  That person that makes you go; Is it getting sexy in here?

Or The best personality, attractive, intelligent, articulate, attentive and a total addition at any business function.  That person you know your parents would be so happy to see you with to know you were in good hands. 

Well hopefully when we are choosing a perspective mate we are not so extreme of one persona or the other.  But it is a problem if your only selecting based on one criteria or the other.  So which is it?  Surface or Substantial.  I personally like a combination of both.  Someone who is dynamic!  Variety is the spice of life so a perfect blend of the right stuff makes Jane a happy girl and Jack an ecstatic boy!  I'd like to hear what you think about choosing Surface people or Substantial.  Don't worry about sounding superficial I promise I wont hold it against you.

His Bed or Yours?

The bedroom is a pretty sticky place (no pun intended) for some of us.  We need our things to be just the way we like it.  Are you the type that likes to keep your things untouched and perfect?  For example do you always prefer to go to her house to spend cozy evenings together in bed or is it equal?  If its not equal you need to start asking yourself some serious questions about commitmnet. 

If the sharing is an issue of your place not mines, maybe you should switch it up to even things out or evaluate the seriousness of where you are.  I wouldnt go jumping up and down about it but a easy suggestion in the direction of switching bedrooms should happen.  If that conversation is rejected; dont get upset but dont reward bad behavior.  Simply cut off communication for a while to see where that persons level of commitment with you lies.  30 days or less will tell all.

Where are you sleeping right now with your significant other?  Your place or his?  I'd like to know what you think about this hit me right here on "The Dating Factor".

With Child or Without? Thats the Question.

Most women and men have a list of preferences that are deal breakers when dating the opposite sex.  Some people wont date a person who lives in another state, has a roommate or doesn't make a certain amount of money.  But what happens when your deal breaker is dating someone who has a child from a previous relationship?  For quite a few people this is a deal breaker. 

I've had the experience of dating someone who had a child and I must say it was more trouble than it was worth.  Heres why this can be troublesome:  When your single with out children you pretty much do whatever you want to do.  However if you mix a single person with no children and a single person with children you get unequality.  Theres sometimes a conflict with scheduling of time, no spontaneous meetings or too many unplanned meetings.  The feeling of settling started to enter my mind and after a while it felt like I never left my job.  I have to say it wasn't a whole lot of fun. 

I'd be interested in reading what you have to say about this.  Obviously this is a deal breaker for me.
If your new romantic interest has a child is it a deal breaker for you?
If you decide you want to continue dating someone with children, heres some tips:

http://www.wikihow.com/Date-a-Man-with-Kids
http://prettygoodarticles.com/tips-for-dating-with-children-after-divorce/

Long Distance Dating: Is it a No or a Go?

How do you feel about Long-Distance Dating?  Let us know what your experiences have been.  Why it did or didnt work.

Dating Long Distance: No or Go?

I'd like to hear what you think about dating long distance.  Is is a good idea?  How would you make it work?

Two's a Company, Three's a Crowd..

What happens when two people go out and the guys friend bum rushes the show?  Disaster!  Checkplease!  I went out with this guy to a sports bar in the South Loop.  It was going pretty well, good conversation, good eye contact.  Somewhere between the good conversation and his unwilling sarcasm his phone rang and he answered it.  Problem#1  If a guy answers the phone while on a date with you you can pretty much call it.  Im not use to something like this happening but apparently it does.  Like Santa Claus, You do exist!  LOL  Well first off its just rude.  You can stay at home and talk on the phone.  I was tempted to pull a "I really got tons to do so I'm gonna split.  But I hung ten and then his boy shows up like this was the only sports bar in the city of Chicago.  I was irritated and was ready to go.  And lets face it, a sports bar is NOT a real date.  I wont do it again ever.  Its really not me.  When he text a really stupid text the next day or so saying "Do you miss me yet?"  I was like ?  DELETE.  Remove silly emails and texts from men that have no value.  No value meaning nothing in it for you.  When I didnt respond to that he sent another really immature text that said, "What happened to you".  DELETE.  Anything other than a phone call is just a waste of time.  Dont fool yourself into believing it doesnt matter.  It absolutely does!  Go out there and get what you want ladies!  Bonne Appetit!! And not at a Sports Bar.  :)