Saturday, September 11, 2010

Is it okay for your man to frequent "Gentlemans Clubs"? Let us know your feelings.

I recently was invited to a Birthday Party by a male friend of mines.  He told me that we were only going to be there for about an hour and then we were going to a club in the South Loop.  He also let me know I could bring some friends with me and that it would be nice with free food and some drinks.  So with that I decided to invite two girlfriends out to meet me there. 

When we arrived there were naked women with there asses in the guys faces and dancing.  It was like a little apartment in a store front.  There had obviously been some renovation but none the less I was not impressed by the location.  The girls were not beauty queens or top of the line babes they were just some ghetto girls with no clothes on.  My first thought was "Im Blind"!  Oh God help me.  I'm thinking this cannot be good for my sex life.  Seeing other womens ta ta's has got to be bad luck.  I like MEN so I definitely was not prepared to see naked women.  I was a little pissed.  I floated through the 45 minutes we were there with a nervous laugh that kept me from making any eye contact with anyone in the place besides the people I knew.

It was clear to me that the men that were there didnt care if the women had degrees, were the cream of the crop or even had a real job.  They just wanted to be entertained some how by the opposite sex.  I thought it was quite sad and very upsetting that women would position themseleves in such a place that no one had an expectation of them because they were that lower life form. 

This is a gender issue that definitely needs further review.  It was quite disturbing.  I'd love to hear what others think about this.  Please leave your comments.

2 comments:

Kimberly Hawthorne said...

I believe that it depends on how many times he frequents clubs and his reasoning behind it. Personally, it makes me think men aren't satisfied with what they have, but I am also aware that men are sometimes just looking for the idea, not the fantasy. Depends on the man.Vonnetta

asherley said...

A man who invites a women and her friends to a "Strip Party" is just looking for an orgy. (He also want to see who is wide-open!) Further he was dishonest. If he told you it was a Strip Party/bring your friends, you would have declined...so he deliberately misled you. He had an agenda! Make no mistake, parties with naked women are for men and gay/bi-women. Don't be afraid to tell a man, this is not for me! Be bold and say...
"Dinner and a movie usually works. It promotes intimacy and communication. Don't treat a Lady like a whore!" Then bounce with all the drama of Lady Gaga! If you demand respect from a man, you'll get it and love usually follows. -Angeli-