If your a single woman dating in her 30's, there's a good chance you could meet and start dating a man in his early to mid 40's. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. That's perfectly healthy and makes a lot of sense on the surface.
But if your a single 30 something year old woman with no children and dating a 40 something year old man who has no children and has never been married in his life you may need to seriously evaluate the relationship. In an attempt to save time it would be adequate to sit down with that person and ask them if they desire children. Any other answer beside Yes means No. This is very important. If he says for example, "I never saw myself with children". That is him saying No I don't want children but I do like you so I'll give you a half baked answer to keep you around.
You may want to mention what a surprise it is that he's never been married. Find out what he thinks about marriage. If he for example says "he really likes his autonomy and the quiet". He's a hermit. Find somebody who wants to be a couple and hated being alone all the time.
If you have no desire to have children or already have them and don't particularly want to be married then he's perfect for you. But be aware that he may have commitment phobias and this marks as a red flag as well.
If you have no desire to have children or already have them and don't particularly want to be married then he's perfect for you. But be aware that he may have commitment phobias and this marks as a red flag as well.
Asking questions is just a part of uncovering needs and wants. When he wants to ask you questions he will, so don't get all passive in your relationship house when you should be inquisitive.
The key is this: Listen to what someone is saying to you. It can save you a lot of time and possibly disappointment down the line. It absolutely means lots!
Choose to date wisely! :)
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