Alone on the Weekend Again?

You would think good looks, active lifestyle and a good job would equal great dating life.  If your living on the planet earth you know that's not necessarily the case.  Some of the reason's your spending your weekends alone are:

1.  You picked the wrong guy:  You are seeing someone but he's selfish with his time and doesn't make time for you.  Translation he's not taken by you at all.  Get rid of him.  That's like having 10 old sweaters from 3 years ago lying around in your closet.  If you keep the old ones how can you fit the new ones in that you can actually wear in the closet.  Bye!

2.  You have no idea where to find men your equally yoked with:  If your having trouble putting yourself in an open forum where men can find you GET ON LINE.  There are so many opportunities for solid relationships on many sites.  Stop being lazy and get with the program.

3.  Your waiting for him to show up at your front door:  That's never going to happen unless you want to date the pizza delivery guy or the pipefitter that fixes the furnace.  Ummm did I say Pipefitter.  LOL.  Just kidding.  Anyway you have got to put more energy into your LIFE!  If you don't, it wont happen. 

4.  Your making excuses and blaming it on work:  Guess what? All the people at work have a life and you are choosing not to.  Get up, Get Out & Get Something.  Stop fooling yourself that a relationship is just going to show up out of thin air.  Work to Live not Live to Work. 

5.  You don't think you look good:  Low Self Esteem believe it or not is one of the #1 reasons why women are not dating and are alone on the weekend.  There's only one thing to do; MAKEOVER!  Get a new hairstyle, get your nails done and buy some sexy clothing.  I promise when a girl gets a new look it almost changes her life and her mind.  Go get it!

These are some pointers to get you started.  Here's to that special someone finding you.  If you act like you want something better you will get it! 

Happy Dating!
  

Dating In The Workplace: A Do or Dont?

Most of us really take our work seriously, so we spend countless hours there.  In fact your at work so much you become really good friends with colleagues and co workers.  But what happens when work life meets personal/private life?  Its becoming more prevalent that men and women are starting love relationships at the workplace.

Workplace romances are commonplace. "Statistics indicate that anywhere from 40-47% of employees surveyed had been involved in a workplace romance. Beyond the 47% involved, about 20% indicated they were receptive to an office romance. Considering their popularity and vast amount of organizational and relational implications, they warrant study. Yet, they remain an under-studied topic." (2013. Psychology Today. Horan, Sean)

Some believe it's an ethical issue that in some cases is investigated by Human Resources.  I was told in an interview with an HR Director that this kind of thing happens more frequently than you would think.  She told me that depending on the proximity of the employees titles and department they would be allowed to date/marry.  If those employees work in the same department it would not be allowed and would need to be evaluated and a solution would be put in place.  That solution in most cases was to ask one or both employees to find other work or were simply let go.  She explained that as much as they would like to look the other way, it can turn into a liability to the company should these relationships go badly.

In my opinion and experience its a bad idea.  Yes you could actually find your soul mate at work.  The possibility in this happening is so likely because its like college.  Its your everything, simply because your there all the time and you start to cultivate these personal relationships with the people you see most; coworkers.  It happens all the time.

Can you imagine how tough it would be if you dated someone at work and you broke up?  It would be devastating to both parties.  Somebody's going to be more hurt than the other and eventually someone is going to want to be moved or even in the worst cases quit for another job.  The severity of the breakup could also cause it to be uncomfortable for co workers.  A Human Resources nightmare!

I know its hard but in my opinion try to keep your hands out of the cookie jar at work.  There are lots of other cookies elsewhere. 

Happy Dating!  

14 Signs He's Totally In To You!

14 Signs He's Totally Into You:

1.  He doesn't cheat on you.  Your too important to him so he wouldn't risk loosing you.
2.  He doesn't let a morning go by without a text or a morning call to let you know he's thinking of you.
3.  He takes you out on a real date. (A restaurant that he selected and made reservations to)
4.  It takes him forever to say goodbye. (He just cant get enough of you)
5. He answers his phone when you call and if he cant answer right away he calls you right back.
6.  He's a man of his word.  (If he says he going to do something he does it)
7.  Hell go out of his way to make you happy. ( Bring flowers to your door so when you get ready to leave, SURPRISE)
8.  He tries to be a better man. (He's somehow inspired by you and wants to show you his best as well)
9.  Your opinion matters to him ( Not only does it matter to him but he asks you what you think)
10.  He dresses to impress you
11.  He tells people your together (He cant wait to share with all the wonderful women in his life)
12.  He touches you and holds your hand in public (PDA)
13.  He takes care of you when your sick
14.  Your apart of his future plans (He has made summer travel plans with you in mind)

If you have a guy who is in line with these types of behavior patterns you have a keeper. 

Happy Dating! 

Domestic Abuse: How much abuse is okay?

Most people would think that if a person is being abused that they would leave.  The problem is that the person that's being abused doesn't realize that they're being abused.  So they take the abuse rather verbal or physical and make excuses to themselves and to others.

Is it okay for a husband or even boyfriend to threaten a women? To demean or break her spirit each day?  Its absolutely not okay at any level, but for some women in this type if situation they look at it as being "just the norm" and that things will blow over soon.  The pot can and in most cases will thicken if not tended to immediately.  I'd like to share some statistic's on domestic abuse and to give a view on how bad things can escalate when the woman stays.

• 25% of women have experienced domestic violence which is a result of 960,000 in a year.
• 503,485 women are stalked by an intimate partner annually.
• 4 women a year die each day as a result of abuse.
• On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day.
• Violence by an intimate partner accounts for about 21% of violent crime experienced by women.

The reason I point out these important statistics is to show how horribly wrong abusive relationship's can go.  If you are being abused you should try to leave rather it be mental or physical abuse.  After you have established a new resident seek help from a Therapist to maintain or regain mental stability.
It's hard but you can do it.  The first step is the beginning for your life and the end to the abuse.

God Bless You!

Kimberly

Let Him Chase You!

This post is going to be short and sweet because its Friday night and there's no time to waste.  If you meet a great guy and you exchange numbers, do yourself a favor.  Wait for him to call you.  Most men are hunters, if you take that away from him you loose a little bit of your sparkle.  Let him chase you, call you and ask you out.  As long as you let him be a man everything should move in a natural progression. 

Good Luck & Happy Dating!

Kimberly

What Should You Do When He Tells You: Dont Tell People Were Dating!

Is this happening to you?  Are you thinking, am I making stuff up or does this seem weird? Are you questioning yourself wondering if your being too passive?  If your not questioning yourself you should be. 

Listen, if a man wants to be with you he's excited about you and is really happy to tell everyone everywhere that the two of you are an item.  It shouldn't be a big secret that your together.  Do you have a huge SINGLE status on your FB page?  And because you have been warned by him never ever to post a picture of the two of you out on the town your now questioning the validity of the relationship.  Has he given you a sit down conversation quietly about why he believes its important not to tell people or post anything socially?  Its embarrassing that it happened but you have to address this situation.  Because if you don't, you will never get what you want. Stop living in this imaginary land that he has created that the two of you live on. 

Your fooling yourself if you believe you are the only one he is seeing.  This is a clear sign that he is not exclusively seeing you.  And definitely has some commitment issues when it comes to you. 
He could possibly be seeing other women and telling them the exact same thing while sleeping with you.  There are clear signs to know if the guy your with is on the up and up.  Ignoring those red flags will not make them go away.  A guy that's WITH you will post a lovely photo of the two of you on his Facebook account as soon as possible.  He wants everybody to know this is my girl, Don't Touch!

Remember what I've told you the next time your smiling pretty with him for the camera.  See if he will allow you to post the picture on your Facebook.  If he says no and becomes defensive there's your answer. 

Stay savvy ladies.  Happy Dating!

Kimberly

Younger Woman, Older Woman Study: How Old Of A Man Will You Date?

It's a bold question but one that comes up in girlfriend conversations frequently.  While conducting conversations with different women of different ages I was shocked by what women felt about the older man?  The results were informative and mind opening, younger woman were more willing to date a slightly less attractive older man with the exception that he is financially stable.  Given that fact the younger women would date the older guy and pass by a younger guy who may not have all his ducks in a row so to speak.  The older women's response to dating older men was a concern of "Sexual Stamina".  Most of the older women felt that sexual compatibility was on the top of the list.  His financial status fell considerably below the importance that younger women rated the possibility of dating an older man.  15 years was the standard for the ladies in their 30's and the 50-60 year old women preferred a man 10-20 years younger than them.  So it was a difference between Financial Security and Sexual Stamina. 

What do you think?  Would you choose sex over finance for a prettier and tighter body?  Let me know what's on your mind when it comes down to it.

Even still dating should be fun.  Pick whom you choose.  Just be happy with that choice no matter what anybody thinks.

As always Happy Dating!

Kimberly