Is It Okay To Date A Separated Man?

Hello Ladies!

Happy Friday to you, it's a beautiful day here in Chicago.  So what's up with that question right?  I myself had been keeping conversation and heavy thoughts about a man I'd met not too long ago.  He mentioned that he was Separated and it went over my head for about five minutes and I went back to the conversation and asked a few questions that I felt he really never honestly answered.  I thought so Separated is still Married.  So your married!!?  Oh no! I was so bummed.  So I got myself all excited about an unavailable man.  Your thinking what I'm thinking; how did that happen to me?  My answer is, I really don't know what happened.  He let me know he was Separated but he waited until I was really into him to tell me the real details which were;  I'm never getting a divorce for this and that reason.  And I felt he was kind of mean about it on the phone because he didn't want to really talk about it.  I'm thinking your not the only person in the room I have feelings over here.  But my response to the reality of the situation was I have got to get out of this thing whatever it is before I put myself in a bad place.  This was my first love interest in a very long time so I was mortified that the guy I liked was basically in a corrupt marriage situation, Separated.  I'm thinking, well get a divorce???  Then I came to myself and knew I had to end it.  Literally, stop it in its tracks in the beginning before I fall in love, before sex, before anything else!

I'm going to keep it simple with the facts:

• Married is Married. 
• Separated is Married.
• Don't Fool Yourself he's Married and Doesn't want a Divorce
• He will never be your Husband, Oh because he's totally Married.    

It's morally wrong as a Christian to even get involved in something this messy especially if you are praying for a committed relationship.  It doesn't work, not to mention all the bad Carma your going to end up creating for yourself.  It's just not worth it.  And while your thinking about the yummy passionate kisses you had with this person think about his wife.  Even if they no longer live together, it's irresponsible and lazy. You just have to walk away from this crap.  It's nonsense and honestly a false profit.  Unfortunately, it does nothing for the Single completely free of baggage person to be involved with a Separated person.

In the end, if you go this route you will probably end up with a broken heart and not getting what you want.  Don't settle in your life.  Be the leading lady in your Story.

God says your worth everything!

As always,
Happy Dating & God Bless!

Kimberly.

Summertime Dating! Hooray!

Hello Ladies!

It's Summertime and its time to make things happen in our dating lives.  Picture this, a woman complaining for the past 3 months saying how she never meets anyone.  But guess what, she's not doing anything to say to the UNIVERSE that she wants a date.  This means we have to be proactive when nothing is happening.  I believe that if you put action to the things you are trying to attain that action will give us RESULTS!  So this is what I want to share with you!  You're going to date this year and you are going to successfully find your mate. Not because I say so but because more action causes more results!

I'm going to give you the tools to make this Summer the summer you tell the Universe, THIS IS FOR ME!  So now that we've decided we can control the energy we give off let's move forward.

1.  Let's start with positive mindsets.  Nothing grows in negativity.  Lose it.  It's holding you back.
2.  Start exercising.  It makes you happy and keeps you in shape.
3.  Its Time To Shop!  Yes, Ladies, that old thing you call a dress is old.  Throw it out and get some new stuff if possible.  Buy some shoes and accessories too.  It makes a difference.
4.  Less is more. Makeup that is.  Please don't smother your face with makeup.  A man likes to keep it simple.  Easy, Breezy, Beautiful.  Maybe a light application of makeup if needed but keep it light.  If this becomes something serious he may see you without makeup and be scared to death!
5. Meditate.  Relax and go into dating this Summer with an open mind.  Whatever baggage you had let it go!  You can't cultivate something new and exciting being broken inside.
6. Last but not least prepare to look and feel beautiful and confident.  Everyone loves a confident person!

I'm wishing you all success in every area of your life.  Go out there and strut your stuff!

Kimberly

Planning For The Future

Hi Ladies,

It's been a while since Ive written to you and I'm sure your wondering why.  Well, Ive been a little busy planning a little family of my very own.  I'm pregnant and excited about whats around the corner!  There is currently not a plus 1 in the picture however I'm planning for a wonderful man that will come into my life exactly at the right time when I'm ready.  Right now is the time for being pregnant and happy. 

I'm having a great pregnancy spending time with family and friends.  New pregnancy discoveries each week, making new friends with other pregnant ladies and eating things I never would eat.  Last night I had a good time at my Aquatics class.  It was nice to move around in the water and see other people after work.  Got some sunshine and fresh air and that felt nice.  I spend most of my time planning the baby's room decor, looking forward to my New Parent 101 Courses at the hospital coming up and doing a bit of shopping for my new bundle of joy that's coming. 

As you know in the pass I have been a strong advocate for Artificial Insemination as an option.  This is due to the fact that as women we have a time clock.  And no amount of dating can stop that from happening if you just happen to not meet your Husband in that time frame.  As I was dating I just couldn't find a great guy to date and mate with long term.  I've been engaged and I've broken an engagement but it didn't happen yet.  Noticing that the clock was ticking I realized I had some important choices to make.  I didnt have a penis partner so I said Hey!  I've got to make this happen and so I prayed, ate a fertility diet and watched You Tube Fertility Videos to make myself as fertile as I could and the good Lord has blessed me.  Life is good and this is my journey.  I hope that you wont ever be afraid to follow your dreams no matter what the circumstances are.

Always believe that God has something good waiting for you!

God Bless & As Always Happy Dating.

Love,
Kimberly

The Shape Of Your Heart........

Happy Monday Ladies!  So good to be alive and living with expectancy.  I wanted to share with you something that happened to me this weekend that wasn't so great.  The reason  I'm sharing this with you is because it's so important to me that I show you that I'm not perfect and I also experience challenging situations in my love life.  Got me thinking about the shape of my heart and how I can never allow someone to crush it.  Everybody is not a nice person. 

Here's the scenario:  It's Saturday and I'm having an awesome day!  The sun is out and I've gotten my workout done, ran a few errands that were high on the priority list and now I have the entire day free to do whatever I want.  I ended up going to a Beer Festival in my area which seem like a good idea.  My best friend and I go over to the event happy as we both can be.  We were both hoping to meet some new men in the process of listening to good music and feeling some good energy.

Everything is perfect and then my ex-boyfriend walks in with a woman who wasn't attractive at all.  She was like 20 years older and she looked it.  He looked old and had on an old mans outfit in my opinion.  LOL.  But really being serious here.  He'd just text me saying he wanted to see and talk to me.  He at one point tried to pretend they weren't together by slowing down his walk waaay behind her until she turned around and he was given a look of disdain.  He's an old creep.  I thought I'd do something different and not be so anal.  He seemed nice and professional and stable, I thought.  Hah!  Even with that I was hurt and really upset that this had occurred. Sure he kept looking at me over and over again because in my opinion what's not to like.  LOL  No but getting serious again, I was really upset and the margarita I was drinking wasn't helping me.  I looked happy and pretty doing a great job covering in a public place but I felt hurt and totally blindsided by this situation.  We stayed for about two hours and my bestfriend could feel that I was hurting through my smiling face and fake dance moves to the live band.  She suggested we leave and with a nod we exited the bad energy that floated across the lot. 

The bright side of what has happened is that I was able to really access the whole situation.  He wasn't what I wanted anyway so there was no real loss.  Plus even though he reached back out days before means he's a liar.     So really it was like my ego had to take a hit for me to raise my standards back up and completely close that door in my mind. Ladies don't downgrade or settle, get what you want.  The minute you settle you end up getting even less than you settled for.  Save that one!

Moving forward is always a good idea when your moving away from and out of BAD ENERGY.  Someone once said, "It's better to be alone than in bad company".  And with that I say to you, stay inspired, positive and open to the possibility that something great is coming!

Goodbye to bad rubbish.  Maintain the wonderful shape of your heart and never let someone try to destroy it.  As always beautiful ladies be well!

Love,

Kimberly 

Like Who Likes You!

I was having a conversation with some friends and we were talking about how the men that we like are unattainable and have commitment issues "aka" not interested in commitment at all.  Sound like a familiar conversation?  Well that's because its unfortunately a common discussion between ladies. Here's the problem, we've got to start liking the people that like us.  That sounded so easy didn't it?  Well that's because it is.  Why go on carrying the torch for some clown who doesn't dig you?  BYE!  Tell him BYE!  No one needs that kind of torture so stop doing it to yourself.  Give yourself a break, dating is hard enough without you kicking yourself when your down. 

Here's what your gong to do now.  Your going to get back up and start looking up from where you are and notice all the wonderful men around you that want to take you out for dinner,  call you and ask you how you are, court you incessantly and eventually, commit to you in a relationship. Yes its just that easy!  You have to look into the men who are totally into you.  Not the scary guys but that cute nice guy that you have totally over looked. Now get to it and let me know how it goes.  If it's not a love match, there's always online dating. 

Best of Love To You! 

Kimberly

Full Bush vs Cleanly Shaven. What Do The Men Want?

As simple a decision I believe this to be it apparently gets mixed reviews from the ladies.  I can't understand why a lady would walk around with a bunch of hair in her pants.  It's just not okay.  I was in the gym locker room the other day and spotted a women who not only was the most comfortable being naked but stayed that way for more than ten minutes with a FULL BUSH.  It was like she wanted people to see her unsanitary private parts.  I was totally disgusted.

I asked some of my male friends what they thought and most of them said they thought it was sexy when a woman cared to have it waxed, shaved or even waxed in a special trimmed down shape.  Ladies please, please, please, keep your privates clean and clear of an abundance of HAIR.  It can cause an increase in bacteria in that area and cause a yeast infection.  YUK! 

So hopefully this will motivate you to clean it up! 

As always happy and healthy dating.

Love & Light!

Kimberly

He Should Like Me The Way I Am!

Hello Ladies!

It's been a while since I've shared with you.  I always find it interesting to talk to other women about their ideas about dating.  Usually I'm shocked at some of the things I hear and just try to guide them in a direction that makes sense.  I was recently at a gathering where a group of ladies were talking about dating.  One of the ladies talked about how a guy recently backed out after only one date.  They met on Match.com and he told her that the picture was a bit thinner than her current size.  She was upset that he told her she didn't look like the same girl and felt he was lied to.  I had to intervene and ask her "why did you think he was wrong?"  She said well he should like me the way I am.  She went on to tell how they spoke on the phone several times and hit it off. 

I went on to tell her as much as she may be a beautiful person on the inside and outside to herself no one has to take her at all.  Ladies, you have to know that esthetics are important and we have to present what we expect.  If you want an attractive, smart and charismatic person you need to mirror that to some extent.  You cant just let yourself go and get mad when the opposite sex rejects you. We have to take care of the outside and the inside of our temple. 

This was a hard conversation to have, nonetheless it had to happen.  Remember to always present the best version of yourself!  You may only get one chance.  Good luck dating. 


Love & Light! 

Kimberly