What Should You Do? White Flag Sometimes....

There are so many of us who are dating and are at the edge of it all.  And what I mean by on the edge of it all is that moment when you know the relationship your in is either going to take a right turn or a left turn.  You look around and suddenly realize its decision making time. Your at a breaking point.  You don't care who was right or who was wrong.  Who made the plans to go wherever,  Who said what in a disagreement.  The bottom line is, is the Love you have in this relationship enough to keep it together?  Now if both people in the relationship feel like this then its easy.  You just Love each other unconditionally and that's great and go right.  These people were in the same place at the same time.

But most people aren't as successful in Love because they live in fear that they are going to loose something.  Loose autonomy, control of their stuff.  But by the end of their life they've spent so much time protecting their autonomy, stuff and space that they end up alone. Missing out on all the blessings that God has already laid out for them.  It happens all the time.
The answer is No, Love is not enough to someone who doesn't really love you.  I say this because it takes two.  Two people to build it up and make it into what they want it to be.  One person cannot be the happy, positive end of things and the other grim and not hopeful.  It just wont work.  Basically when your having stupid ass fights that you didn't start and get pulled into.  You have to wonder if the person your dealing with is trying to sabotage the slim remains of what used to be the high point of the day which was the relationship. If this is true your better off to wave your white flag and give your heart a break.  Sometimes you just have to walk away even though you wanted it to work and you still feel love.  The insults, negative comments and attacks on you as a person is not a sign of love.  Just walk away.


The person who is bringing down the curve has to first humble themselves because that's a big part of LOVE.  Then when they see you slipping away they make the move to say, I don't want to live my life without you.  If that is not happening move on.  Take all your positive energy that you gave from day one, your love and optimism on life and go.  Don't wait until the person who is negative in the relationship starts poking at you, being mean to you.  Putting you down.  Telling you what you do wrong, just giving you the grey side of everything.  You think to yourself I'll be positive and give positive feedback and they will have to follow my lead.  Don't do it.  This person has already robbed you of all your power and positive stuff.  They were weak, you built them up and now they think their better than you.  They wont give it back to you.  If you find that your not getting it back at all.  You've come to your own resolution.  If someone cant see how great you are and you have to remind or tell them.  You'd be better off single until you met someone who could appreciate you for you.  Not for what you'll become or what you have done.    There's nothing wrong with you.  The only thing that's wrong with you is being with them.  Be with someone who is going to smile when they see you all the time.  Yes even when they are tired.  I call that Love.  Real love transcends.  It doesn't grey and fade.  


Fear and Love cannot live in the same house.  Love is open to the possibility of........

I think we all deserve that much.  To those in relationships on the edge, life is precious don't let anyone rob you of happy joyful moments.  For those of you who have given up on love, don't!  Its right around the corner.  And to those of you who are in love and love each other successfully.  I say nourish that love and know that you have both been brave to trust that you can have God's Promise.  Special people deserve special people.  Love is important.  I wish you all much love and success in your relationships.