Is Age Really Just A Number?

I've been hearing so many conversations about dating older or dating younger lately.  It apparently is a big deal.  I believe that it all comes down to what your comfortable with.  There are many areas to look at that come with age.  If he's younger your concern might be is he professional, polished, educated enough for you.  Can you take him to different events with the confidence that he wont embarrass you in anyway.  Will you be judged in a negative light?  If he's older will he be able to keep up with you?  Are your interests going to clash?  Will you eventually get bored and long for the companionship of a younger guy closer to your age? 

These are all valid questions but again if you have answers for all of these questions then you can pretty much call it.  When you straddle the fence about it your prolonging the inevitable.  You will probably go with maybe not so much.  It becomes to complicated and the only way out is OUT. 

Age is important but happiness is important too.  If that person can fill a check in all your boxes of needs and makes you happy on all fronts go ahead and take the leap.  Don't worry about missing the bus if you turn this one down.  There will most definitely be another one around to pick you up. 

Stay Optimistic.  Keep Dating. 

Kimberly

The New Dating Ritual: Ugly Is The New Hot

I recently had a conversation with a friend about married women and their husbands.  She was telling me that a friend of hers really wanted to get married and have babies because the clock was ticking.  I laughed and responded so is she crazy about him and how does he look?  She responded he looks as good as anybody, and at the end of the day she has her husband and children.  So it made me think, women have evolved past the dream of getting exactly what they want but instead have made a conscious decision to get what they need.  Meaning if marrying a slightly unattractive man will land them a beautiful home, babies and some other perks they'd be willing to bite the bullet for their somewhat altered childhood dream. 

I then thought I wonder what the men would think to know that they were 2nd, 3rd or even 4th best in their current wives selection as a husband.  Then they are simply no more than a systematic approach to a means to an end.  Simply put sperm donors and maintenance men.  Now I'm sure they would be pissed to say the least. And if they did know what would they do?  Just a little something to think about.

So with knowing that women will select a guy that's not attractive but fits a certain criteria; is this the new way to date?  I believe that a number of women have and are dating and finding a mate based on criteria such as Salary, Career, Social Status, Education and Family values.  And of course the fact that he has treated her better than any other man has in her life.  These are big factors in a woman warming up to man that doesn't quite fit the bill but knows how to court her in a way that makes her rethink her original plan. 

So hot or not so hot but treats you right?  Choosing not so hot I believe is todays women's natural response to their environment in the dating world with what they have been given.

Until next time keep an open mind and keep dating!

Kimberly