I recently had a conversation with a friend about married women and their husbands. She was telling me that a friend of hers really wanted to get married and have babies because the clock was ticking. I laughed and responded so is she crazy about him and how does he look? She responded he looks as good as anybody, and at the end of the day she has her husband and children. So it made me think, women have evolved past the dream of getting exactly what they want but instead have made a conscious decision to get what they need. Meaning if marrying a slightly unattractive man will land them a beautiful home, babies and some other perks they'd be willing to bite the bullet for their somewhat altered childhood dream.
I then thought I wonder what the men would think to know that they were 2nd, 3rd or even 4th best in their current wives selection as a husband. Then they are simply no more than a systematic approach to a means to an end. Simply put sperm donors and maintenance men. Now I'm sure they would be pissed to say the least. And if they did know what would they do? Just a little something to think about.
So with knowing that women will select a guy that's not attractive but fits a certain criteria; is this the new way to date? I believe that a number of women have and are dating and finding a mate based on criteria such as Salary, Career, Social Status, Education and Family values. And of course the fact that he has treated her better than any other man has in her life. These are big factors in a woman warming up to man that doesn't quite fit the bill but knows how to court her in a way that makes her rethink her original plan.
So hot or not so hot but treats you right? Choosing not so hot I believe is todays women's natural response to their environment in the dating world with what they have been given.
Until next time keep an open mind and keep dating!
Kimberly
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