Like Who Likes You!

I was having a conversation with some friends and we were talking about how the men that we like are unattainable and have commitment issues "aka" not interested in commitment at all.  Sound like a familiar conversation?  Well that's because its unfortunately a common discussion between ladies. Here's the problem, we've got to start liking the people that like us.  That sounded so easy didn't it?  Well that's because it is.  Why go on carrying the torch for some clown who doesn't dig you?  BYE!  Tell him BYE!  No one needs that kind of torture so stop doing it to yourself.  Give yourself a break, dating is hard enough without you kicking yourself when your down. 

Here's what your gong to do now.  Your going to get back up and start looking up from where you are and notice all the wonderful men around you that want to take you out for dinner,  call you and ask you how you are, court you incessantly and eventually, commit to you in a relationship. Yes its just that easy!  You have to look into the men who are totally into you.  Not the scary guys but that cute nice guy that you have totally over looked. Now get to it and let me know how it goes.  If it's not a love match, there's always online dating. 

Best of Love To You! 

Kimberly

How To Break Out After A Break Up! Special Edition

I know it's a sad story but sometimes things don't workout and two people who couldn't get enough of each other decide to go their separate ways.  So your probably wondering what you should do now?  Well, first your going to lick your wounds and that means giving yourself sometime to heal.  Spend sometime nurturing yourself, writing in your journal to clear your mind.  It's natural to go over and over in your mind how everything went so wrong that lead to you breaking up.  Go over it and then make a decision to get past it and get on with the good things God has in store for your life. 

Here are some things you can do while your getting back to fabulous you!
After a long work week, because it will seem long while your feeling a bit down and emotional. Do these things:

1. Get up Saturday morning and hit the gym!  A great Cardio workout will get those endorphins pumping and start off your weekend just right.

2.  Plan to go get a Mani/Pedi.  Getting pretty is never a bad idea.  It will make you feel better and you'll walk out looking terrific.

3. Get out with your girlfriends! You'll have lots of catching up to do since you were spending so much time with your now ex.  Because your friends love you they will be more than willing to get out with you for martini's, dancing and mingling with the opposite sex.

4. Treat Yourself!  Go and buy yourself something nice.  I'm not talking necessarily break the bank nice but something that will make you feel beautiful. 

5.  Last but not least get some rest.  It's hard enough dealing with your emotions but when your tired and sad that's a mixture for erratic behavior to do or say something crazy.

Also get back on Match.com.  It's time to start dating again.  Us girls don't have forever to just be sitting around holding the flame for someone who missed the bus.  Keep it moving.  You are amazing!

And I know it will be super hard but try not to call him.  Learn from my mistake, I called him because I thought somehow it would change things but it wont.  If someone wants you they will come for you and if they don't good riddens to bad rubbish.  It's because we forgot how Fabulous we were before we started dating this fool.  He forgot too.  Your silence will speak multitudes. 

I know your thinking that it sounds like a good idea but its not that easy.  Well I'm going to say this, you may not forget about him right away but day after day and week after week while your changing your behaviors and actively working towards happiness one day you will wake up and actually be HAPPY!  I know it's true because it happened to me.  I promise you'll come out better than you were before.  Your energy will draw in a waaay better man than before.  As Joel Osteen say's "God will give you beauty for those ashes."  It's True!

So its okay to cry and talk to your girlfriends about your feelings, get it out!  It's totally acceptable with what you've gone through.  But know when its time to stop the sadness and look in the mirror and see the "YOU" that deserves so much better.  Your on your way to your blessings.  Keep pushing forward your going to see the sunshine again in your heart and mind. 

Todays note:  Don't Forget God's Promise!

Affirmations:  Be Love. Never Stop Believing. You Are A Winner. You Are Beautiful!

Ways and Tips To Be Sexier On A First Date!

Hi Ladies,

I know its been a while since we've gotten to dish but I got busy with life and now I'm back to keep you on track with your dating!

I've found that some of you are still challenged when it comes to what to wear and do to be at your best on a first date.  Well I'm going to give you the tools and some ideas on how to totally knock his socks off on the first date and keep him coming back for more!

1.  First of all remember he asked you out so he should be totally excited that you said "Yes"!  So be confident in knowing you have it going on already with all the right equipment. 

2.  Be the same YOU.  He already likes you so don't go on the date acting like a totally different person.  Be your wonderful self.  Have an open mind and be prepared to have a great night out on the town.

3.  When your out together make sure your not looking at other men.  Listen to his conversation.  This is Field Work ladies use it to your advantage.  And make sure your a conversationalist.  Bring your A game. The both of you will only get to make a first impression ONCE. 

Esthetics:
Rule # 1 You absolutely need to workout that morning.  It makes a big difference in how you feel and look! 
Rule # 2  You have to go for a Mani-Pedi.  Following a trip to the hair salon to get your coif perfectly washed and styled.
Rule # 3  Make sure you wear a bit of makeup.  Red Lips are always a winner.  Don't pile on makeup like WAR PAINT!  NO!  Men typically like less makeup.  Show as much of your natural beauty as possible. 
Rule # 4  Your Outfit! Hopefully its a night out on the town.  Or even if its a Daytime Date you should look stunning!  Wear a Dress, something flirty, fun but not too sexy or revealing. Sexy but not Slutty.  Hopefully you can spot the difference but if you cant you can reach out to me @ Kimberly_Hawthorne007@yahoo.com.

Rule # 5  Last but not least.  BE A LADY.  After all the work you put in don't mess it up by sleeping with him.  This includes oral sex or heavy petting.  ITS TOO SOON FOR ALL OF THAT!  Be a Virtuous Woman and go home with your morals intact and be prepared for a second invitation to spend time together.  You can say Yes or No but you absolutely want him to be over the moon about YOU! 

So I hope this is helpful information and helps you have the best DATE NIGHT EVER!  Go Get It And Bring It Back Ladies!  As always Love Ya! 

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