He Licked What? On Who? And Kissed You? Gross!

I'm about to get real with you Ladies.  But this post is about Cheaters.  Guys who are with someone but scream to the sky they want and need to spend time with you! Wonderful you!  Okay that's real cute but what about that significant other that he's with.  That girl he goes home to and sleeps with, has sex with.  The girl who he just had sex with in every way imaginable and then showed up to meet you with her still on him and her in his MOUTH!  OMG.  Yes I said it because its true.  Your basically kissing her thang thang an hour after. 

First of all its gross and secondly you need to get your mind right.  Are you sloppy seconds?  Do you deserve no commitment, no truthfulness, no authenticity, no real love, no honesty.  Is this what you deserve?  If you keep down playing yourself into an imitation of life, to visit some girls reality and be happy about whatever you get your not living a golden life, your living a whorish life.

That man will smile in your face, tell you your beautiful but all the while thinking the very least of you. He's only interested in getting what he wants.  IT'S NEVER ABOUT YOU.  And the most patient of men will wait for what they want.  Don't continue to put yourself in a box that says you have a price and can be bought.  The minute you settle for LESS is the moment to realize you've settled for even Less than what you have gotten. 

Ladies Know Your Worth!

Take Away:  If You Act Like It, you Will Be Treated Like IT.

Love You Dolls!  Love. One.

My Match.com Journey! Date #1

Hi Ladies!

I've got news to share with you.  If your not dating you absolutely need to get on Match.com.  I've recently went on a couple dates and it has been an eye opening experience.  My first date was well planned, we went to Ten Pin and then Unlisted for dinner and dancing.  It was a great date but no Sparkle or Fireworks and you know what that's Okay!  We had a good time and good conversation. 

My advice to you is that you should always be open to LOVE!  It's why were here.  To Love and Be Loved.

Take away:  Men Can't Date You If They Can't See You!  Go For it!

Stay Encouraged!

Love You Dolls!


Kimberly

Double Dating: Yay or Nay?

So I just recently have started dating someone who has become my new plus one.  Double Triple Stars!  With our new found love has come quite a few invitations to double date. My initial response is, "That sounds great lets plan it!"  After a few days I revisited the idea and thought "Naw". 

In my opinion double dating is for couples who have exhausted everything and need props to make the evening interesting.  The two of us are interesting enough and props are the last thing we need.  Enjoy your Happy Bubble!  These first moments only happen once you Lucky Girl!
I think double dating is a good time at the right time.  At the beginning it's so important to have that bonding time.  Spending time with that special someone can truly be a time of discovery and fun!  Enjoying quiet time alone, Going on date nights and Cuddling is the time to get in each others nook.  Get to know the core of a person and decide if you want to spend another minute with this guy.  But more than likely if your even considering a double date things are going fine. 
My advice is to PUMP THE BRAKES on the double dating idea for at least 3 months and see how it goes.   

*Be Authentically You.  Love Yourself.  Be True To Thine Self.  Honesty Is Important.*

Important Take Away:  Covet what's important to you

Love You Ladies. Enjoy the Holidays!

Ways and Tips To Be Sexier On A First Date!

Hi Ladies,

I know its been a while since we've gotten to dish but I got busy with life and now I'm back to keep you on track with your dating!

I've found that some of you are still challenged when it comes to what to wear and do to be at your best on a first date.  Well I'm going to give you the tools and some ideas on how to totally knock his socks off on the first date and keep him coming back for more!

1.  First of all remember he asked you out so he should be totally excited that you said "Yes"!  So be confident in knowing you have it going on already with all the right equipment. 

2.  Be the same YOU.  He already likes you so don't go on the date acting like a totally different person.  Be your wonderful self.  Have an open mind and be prepared to have a great night out on the town.

3.  When your out together make sure your not looking at other men.  Listen to his conversation.  This is Field Work ladies use it to your advantage.  And make sure your a conversationalist.  Bring your A game. The both of you will only get to make a first impression ONCE. 

Esthetics:
Rule # 1 You absolutely need to workout that morning.  It makes a big difference in how you feel and look! 
Rule # 2  You have to go for a Mani-Pedi.  Following a trip to the hair salon to get your coif perfectly washed and styled.
Rule # 3  Make sure you wear a bit of makeup.  Red Lips are always a winner.  Don't pile on makeup like WAR PAINT!  NO!  Men typically like less makeup.  Show as much of your natural beauty as possible. 
Rule # 4  Your Outfit! Hopefully its a night out on the town.  Or even if its a Daytime Date you should look stunning!  Wear a Dress, something flirty, fun but not too sexy or revealing. Sexy but not Slutty.  Hopefully you can spot the difference but if you cant you can reach out to me @ Kimberly_Hawthorne007@yahoo.com.

Rule # 5  Last but not least.  BE A LADY.  After all the work you put in don't mess it up by sleeping with him.  This includes oral sex or heavy petting.  ITS TOO SOON FOR ALL OF THAT!  Be a Virtuous Woman and go home with your morals intact and be prepared for a second invitation to spend time together.  You can say Yes or No but you absolutely want him to be over the moon about YOU! 

So I hope this is helpful information and helps you have the best DATE NIGHT EVER!  Go Get It And Bring It Back Ladies!  As always Love Ya! 

Let me know how it goes and also check me out on Facebook for Daily Quotes, Fashion Tips and Inspiration! 

When He Lives At Home With His Momma..........

If dating wasn't hard enough already, we also have to deal with all the details surrounded with the person.  All things being constant something's are simply deal breakers.

For example a friend was just sharing with me how she had met this great guy.  She liked him enough to take it to the next level and decided to go home with him after dinner for a little one on one.  She said the night was going great and she was looking forward to making out with him.  To her surprise when they walked in the front door his Mother was in the living room camped out. 

he looked at her and said this is my mother.  She took one look at that woman and ran out the front door.  He chased her and said what's wrong?  She asked him "Do you live with your mother?"  He replied well yeah sure what's wrong with that?  Needless to say that was the last time she went out with that guy.  She liked him but where can they really go with that? 

If you were in a similar situation would you stay or would you go?  Would you date a guy that lives at home with his Mother? 

In my opinion its time to grow up and cut the strings already.  To keep it simple, "IT'S NOT HOT!"

Make Good Choices.

Happy Dating Darlings,

Kimberly 

Alone on the Weekend Again?

You would think good looks, active lifestyle and a good job would equal great dating life.  If your living on the planet earth you know that's not necessarily the case.  Some of the reason's your spending your weekends alone are:

1.  You picked the wrong guy:  You are seeing someone but he's selfish with his time and doesn't make time for you.  Translation he's not taken by you at all.  Get rid of him.  That's like having 10 old sweaters from 3 years ago lying around in your closet.  If you keep the old ones how can you fit the new ones in that you can actually wear in the closet.  Bye!

2.  You have no idea where to find men your equally yoked with:  If your having trouble putting yourself in an open forum where men can find you GET ON LINE.  There are so many opportunities for solid relationships on many sites.  Stop being lazy and get with the program.

3.  Your waiting for him to show up at your front door:  That's never going to happen unless you want to date the pizza delivery guy or the pipefitter that fixes the furnace.  Ummm did I say Pipefitter.  LOL.  Just kidding.  Anyway you have got to put more energy into your LIFE!  If you don't, it wont happen. 

4.  Your making excuses and blaming it on work:  Guess what? All the people at work have a life and you are choosing not to.  Get up, Get Out & Get Something.  Stop fooling yourself that a relationship is just going to show up out of thin air.  Work to Live not Live to Work. 

5.  You don't think you look good:  Low Self Esteem believe it or not is one of the #1 reasons why women are not dating and are alone on the weekend.  There's only one thing to do; MAKEOVER!  Get a new hairstyle, get your nails done and buy some sexy clothing.  I promise when a girl gets a new look it almost changes her life and her mind.  Go get it!

These are some pointers to get you started.  Here's to that special someone finding you.  If you act like you want something better you will get it! 

Happy Dating!
  

Dating In The Workplace: A Do or Dont?

Most of us really take our work seriously, so we spend countless hours there.  In fact your at work so much you become really good friends with colleagues and co workers.  But what happens when work life meets personal/private life?  Its becoming more prevalent that men and women are starting love relationships at the workplace.

Workplace romances are commonplace. "Statistics indicate that anywhere from 40-47% of employees surveyed had been involved in a workplace romance. Beyond the 47% involved, about 20% indicated they were receptive to an office romance. Considering their popularity and vast amount of organizational and relational implications, they warrant study. Yet, they remain an under-studied topic." (2013. Psychology Today. Horan, Sean)

Some believe it's an ethical issue that in some cases is investigated by Human Resources.  I was told in an interview with an HR Director that this kind of thing happens more frequently than you would think.  She told me that depending on the proximity of the employees titles and department they would be allowed to date/marry.  If those employees work in the same department it would not be allowed and would need to be evaluated and a solution would be put in place.  That solution in most cases was to ask one or both employees to find other work or were simply let go.  She explained that as much as they would like to look the other way, it can turn into a liability to the company should these relationships go badly.

In my opinion and experience its a bad idea.  Yes you could actually find your soul mate at work.  The possibility in this happening is so likely because its like college.  Its your everything, simply because your there all the time and you start to cultivate these personal relationships with the people you see most; coworkers.  It happens all the time.

Can you imagine how tough it would be if you dated someone at work and you broke up?  It would be devastating to both parties.  Somebody's going to be more hurt than the other and eventually someone is going to want to be moved or even in the worst cases quit for another job.  The severity of the breakup could also cause it to be uncomfortable for co workers.  A Human Resources nightmare!

I know its hard but in my opinion try to keep your hands out of the cookie jar at work.  There are lots of other cookies elsewhere. 

Happy Dating!