Friday, July 8, 2011

When it comes to Dating: Stick to your first mind..



This is one of those times when i use myself as an example of date dont's!  I typically don't stray away from my first mind when it comes to dating but recently I decided to go with the flow. 

I met this guy from Dallas I'll call Frisco.  He asked me out and I said yes.  He sent me a text asking if it was okay for him to bring his sisters, a cousin and a sisters co worker.  Yes he sent a text asking me this the day of.  I was not pleased with the delivery of what he was asking or the what he was proposing but I thought maybe it will be a surprising yet refreshing outing.  And guys please use a freakin phone to communicate.  Don't men know that women hate that. 

When he got there it was nice to see him again he was pleasant and I felt welcomed.  His sisters were very nice and welcoming as well. 

He decided to ask me how old I was.  Then responded that it was nice to go out with someone mature.  Mature?  Mature as in aged wine or Mature as in smart and witty.  Either way I don't ever want to hear a guy I barely know say I'm mature AKA boring and old.  Which is BS in the first place.  I was thinking dude I'm in my 30's your 45 so who came up today?  Yes I did just sigh.   

Here's the problem:  Dating as we all know is stressful enough but to have to meet the family too is a bit much!  It was a little overwhelming although they were sweet people it was too much.  You cant really get to know someone with all those people "at the date".  It was too much for me. I just wanted a simple evening out with a nice guy for dinner and possibly a nice walk in weather we don't get very often. 

All in all I felt I'd met a couple of great girls who I hope I'll see in the city again.  But Frisco kind of missed the mark with me on making a connection.  Him calling me again is not something I'm looking for.  Whats next the whole family? 

Hopefully the next date will blow my mine. 

Sincerely Confused in Chicago.  :)

1 comment:

Sara Sonríe said...

Age 45 and invited the whole brood on a first date? Maybe he didn't want it to seem like a serious date? Maybe he's inordinately attached to his family? Either way he sounds socially awkward which is probably a good reason why he's still single at age 45. Sounds like he's in need of some maturing! ;-) Next time, screen him like an interview candidate on the phone before the first date so age, political view, favorite food type questions are out of the way.