Would you Date Somebody Who is Not Attractive?

It's a little trivial but sometimes attractive people date unattractive people.  When those worlds collide you can expect for some pretty strange looks to those couples that is.  But I cant help but wonder why?  It clearly wasn't the attractive persons first choice.  So what happened?  I can tell you what happened.  Somebody got lonely or even possibly desperate.  And we all know that desperate isn't a good look on anyone.   I say even if your significant other is unattractive its up to you.  If you feel good about them it doesn't matter.  But if your ashamed, uneasy or embarrassed when you go to events, dinner parties or public places you are fooling yourself.  Don't spend the next 10-20 years pretending its all good.  Get what you really want and be happy!  Happy Dating! 

Confirming The Date: C'mon Guys You Just Gotta Do It

Hi Guys!  Have you ever asked a woman out and made plans to get together a week later or four days later and not confirm the date?  Assuming that she remembers the date, wouldn't it make sense for you to call a day in advance to confirm that's its still all good for say Friday?

Contrary to what some men believe us ladies actually have a life and if you don't get on the date book and learn how to follow up and show interest we may forget about it.  Or better yet push us into a "not interested" direction.  Show the woman some respect and call or text to say for example" Hope your having a nice day.  Looking forward to Saturday."  Then she will respond accordingly.  Just basic dating etiquette. 

If you can do that when you make dates with ladies, I promise you'll have started off being in a good place.  And granted the date goes well she will consider going out with you in the future. 

Happy Dating.  Have Fun!

Is Bad Sex A Reason To Break Up?

 

 

Sex is important in a relationship.  But its not the only thing.  If you dated someone and you were in an otherwise healthy relationship, is bad sex a reason to walk away from the relationship?  Would you stay or would you go?

Facebook Page Stalkers: Do You Have This Problem?

I’ve found over the past couple years that Men on Facebook use this website to hit on Women.  Now it’s a social media network so I get it but I have a problem with men not only hitting on you but stalking you out and making inappropriate comments communicated via FB Email.  Here’s an example; recently I had a guy ask me questions about my life that he had no right to ask.  I told him to stay in his lane.  There’s a difference between flirting and stalking.  He was clearly a stalker so I had to shut him down and BLOCK him.  Ladies and Men if you have someone sending you disrespectful posts or emails BLOCK them.  No one needs that, its annoying. 

There’s a correct way to flirt and even carry on some sort of dating on Facebook.   I’m however not a person that finds this appealing.  I recently was speaking to a female friend of mines who was saying that the men on FB are targeting women whom they believe are either easy, fragile or broken.  From experience I’ve found many Men to be broken so we can all go down that road.  I laughed when I heard her statement because I had to wonder, if this is true what a disappointment for all my stalkers and apparently delusional men who send random emails to me.  They have either ended up Blocked, Ignored or Cursed Out.  And I’m sure there are other women out there experiencing much of the same.  Nonetheless if you are a Man or Women who likes to stalk, oops! I mean try to date on Facebook be respectful.  Facebook is a social media network and it’s very enjoyable to reach out to and hear from old friends and family. 

Enjoy posting and keep it clean!

Couples At Bedtime: Does It Matter What You Wear?

You would think that what you wore to bed after seeing each other day in and day out, it wouldn't really matter what you donned under the sheets.  I first asked close friends and associates what they wore to bed with their significant others and got a myriad of responses.  Some ladies said they just wore boxers and a t-shirt, a couple said they wore whatever was available without much thought and the few that fell in my yes box on the subject said they really like to look feminine/sexy when they came to bed. 

So ladies here's one to grow on.  I spoke with single men in relationships and married men about their preference and they all said they really appreciated it when their woman came to bed looking feminine.  I know its not always easy especially after you've been working all day and just want to wind down in some sweat pants and a old t-shirt. But for the sake of your relationship and keeping it exciting everyday wearing a cute satin short set with lace or a fun nightie from Victoria Secret can be comfortable and alluring.  Sometimes its the little things that make all the difference. 

Just in case your lost and have no idea where to go to get such things I'll share some of my favorites:
Victoria's Secret, Fredericks of Hollywood, TJ Maxx, G Boutique and Wolford Boutique.  I'm sure all you ladies can find something sexy and sweet at these great retailers.  Also don't forget to buy him something to wear to bed too. 

Here's to keeping your relationships healthy and fun!    

Valentine's Day: Not just for the couples

Bah Bah.  No wait.  It's Valentine's Day.  I've been in that place where it's Valentines Day and you're a Single Girl in the City but wish you weren't.  Well, I've always taken solace that this is an opportunity for single guys and girls to go to a fabulous party downtown.  There are great Valentine's Day Party's in the city to go to and have a great time and look good doing so.  Chicago Magazine has a great party for singles, if your looking for direction go to Metro Mix and you will find lots to do as well. With an open mind and open heart you never know how the night may end.  You could meet some wonderful men and make some new friends. 

All the partying and laughing will completely change your perception of Valentine's Day when your single. Cheers!

What are your plans for Valentine's Day?  Share with us! 

Would You Date A Man with No Means To an End?

The dating world can be tricky but we have the power to choose who we date.  So with that power, would you purposely choose a man who doesn't have an income, car or home?  Apparently this is a trend that women are adopting more and more.  One woman told me she's really crazy about the guy she's seeing now.  She says he helps her out a lot with sex, picking up her daughters from school and little odds and ends around the house.  I simply nodded and responded, "Well if it works for you great."  I am truly confused by my associates choice, she is a person who is always saying she wants a dual income household but she chose the opposite.

Another girlfriend of mines dated a guy who posed as a gainfully employed man but she found out later he had no means to be heard of.  No car that was really his, no place to live and no money to take them out or feed them.  She said it just kind of dawned on her one day that this guy was totally taking advantage of her. One day she arrived home from work and told him to get out!  I guess that's how you do it.  Get your stuff and go dude.  I thought her story was pretty funny and she was smart to make a call the minute she saw what was really going on.  It was complete with animated facial expressions and swear words.  I thought LIFE what a hoot.

My personal choice is to choose someone who is my equal in regards to wanting to provide something to our bottom line.  That's the smart girls way of thinking when your out in the dating pool.  Sex is great and having a good time is nice too but no one wants to go ten rounds about why the light bill wasn't paid. 

Maybe your a rich girl who likes to foot the bill for everything.  Go for it!  But be cautious those kind of people will keep coming back to the well.  To them your no more than an open checking account.

At the end of the day life is precious don't waste time on people who may just be interested in getting the best of it for themselves. 

I'd love to hear your thoughts.  Visit me at www.thedatingfactor.blogspot.com