Let Him Chase You!

This post is going to be short and sweet because its Friday night and there's no time to waste.  If you meet a great guy and you exchange numbers, do yourself a favor.  Wait for him to call you.  Most men are hunters, if you take that away from him you loose a little bit of your sparkle.  Let him chase you, call you and ask you out.  As long as you let him be a man everything should move in a natural progression. 

Good Luck & Happy Dating!

Kimberly

What Should You Do When He Tells You: Dont Tell People Were Dating!

Is this happening to you?  Are you thinking, am I making stuff up or does this seem weird? Are you questioning yourself wondering if your being too passive?  If your not questioning yourself you should be. 

Listen, if a man wants to be with you he's excited about you and is really happy to tell everyone everywhere that the two of you are an item.  It shouldn't be a big secret that your together.  Do you have a huge SINGLE status on your FB page?  And because you have been warned by him never ever to post a picture of the two of you out on the town your now questioning the validity of the relationship.  Has he given you a sit down conversation quietly about why he believes its important not to tell people or post anything socially?  Its embarrassing that it happened but you have to address this situation.  Because if you don't, you will never get what you want. Stop living in this imaginary land that he has created that the two of you live on. 

Your fooling yourself if you believe you are the only one he is seeing.  This is a clear sign that he is not exclusively seeing you.  And definitely has some commitment issues when it comes to you. 
He could possibly be seeing other women and telling them the exact same thing while sleeping with you.  There are clear signs to know if the guy your with is on the up and up.  Ignoring those red flags will not make them go away.  A guy that's WITH you will post a lovely photo of the two of you on his Facebook account as soon as possible.  He wants everybody to know this is my girl, Don't Touch!

Remember what I've told you the next time your smiling pretty with him for the camera.  See if he will allow you to post the picture on your Facebook.  If he says no and becomes defensive there's your answer. 

Stay savvy ladies.  Happy Dating!

Kimberly

Younger Woman, Older Woman Study: How Old Of A Man Will You Date?

It's a bold question but one that comes up in girlfriend conversations frequently.  While conducting conversations with different women of different ages I was shocked by what women felt about the older man?  The results were informative and mind opening, younger woman were more willing to date a slightly less attractive older man with the exception that he is financially stable.  Given that fact the younger women would date the older guy and pass by a younger guy who may not have all his ducks in a row so to speak.  The older women's response to dating older men was a concern of "Sexual Stamina".  Most of the older women felt that sexual compatibility was on the top of the list.  His financial status fell considerably below the importance that younger women rated the possibility of dating an older man.  15 years was the standard for the ladies in their 30's and the 50-60 year old women preferred a man 10-20 years younger than them.  So it was a difference between Financial Security and Sexual Stamina. 

What do you think?  Would you choose sex over finance for a prettier and tighter body?  Let me know what's on your mind when it comes down to it.

Even still dating should be fun.  Pick whom you choose.  Just be happy with that choice no matter what anybody thinks.

As always Happy Dating!

Kimberly

Is Age Really Just A Number?

I've been hearing so many conversations about dating older or dating younger lately.  It apparently is a big deal.  I believe that it all comes down to what your comfortable with.  There are many areas to look at that come with age.  If he's younger your concern might be is he professional, polished, educated enough for you.  Can you take him to different events with the confidence that he wont embarrass you in anyway.  Will you be judged in a negative light?  If he's older will he be able to keep up with you?  Are your interests going to clash?  Will you eventually get bored and long for the companionship of a younger guy closer to your age? 

These are all valid questions but again if you have answers for all of these questions then you can pretty much call it.  When you straddle the fence about it your prolonging the inevitable.  You will probably go with maybe not so much.  It becomes to complicated and the only way out is OUT. 

Age is important but happiness is important too.  If that person can fill a check in all your boxes of needs and makes you happy on all fronts go ahead and take the leap.  Don't worry about missing the bus if you turn this one down.  There will most definitely be another one around to pick you up. 

Stay Optimistic.  Keep Dating. 

Kimberly

The New Dating Ritual: Ugly Is The New Hot

I recently had a conversation with a friend about married women and their husbands.  She was telling me that a friend of hers really wanted to get married and have babies because the clock was ticking.  I laughed and responded so is she crazy about him and how does he look?  She responded he looks as good as anybody, and at the end of the day she has her husband and children.  So it made me think, women have evolved past the dream of getting exactly what they want but instead have made a conscious decision to get what they need.  Meaning if marrying a slightly unattractive man will land them a beautiful home, babies and some other perks they'd be willing to bite the bullet for their somewhat altered childhood dream. 

I then thought I wonder what the men would think to know that they were 2nd, 3rd or even 4th best in their current wives selection as a husband.  Then they are simply no more than a systematic approach to a means to an end.  Simply put sperm donors and maintenance men.  Now I'm sure they would be pissed to say the least. And if they did know what would they do?  Just a little something to think about.

So with knowing that women will select a guy that's not attractive but fits a certain criteria; is this the new way to date?  I believe that a number of women have and are dating and finding a mate based on criteria such as Salary, Career, Social Status, Education and Family values.  And of course the fact that he has treated her better than any other man has in her life.  These are big factors in a woman warming up to man that doesn't quite fit the bill but knows how to court her in a way that makes her rethink her original plan. 

So hot or not so hot but treats you right?  Choosing not so hot I believe is todays women's natural response to their environment in the dating world with what they have been given.

Until next time keep an open mind and keep dating!

Kimberly
  

You Paid For Your Own Food On A Date! What?

Okay Ladies,

If this is happening on your dates its time to do some restructuring.  Restructuring the way you choose men.  Any guy who respects himself would never let a lady he was with pay for her own meal.  If you find yourself in this situation simply pay for your meal and take a cab home.  He's a loser.  The message needs to be clear that you will not be going out with him again. 

He clearly doesn't know the rules of dating.  Go out with guys that ask you out and are respectful of you and your time.  It all about energy!

Happy Dating! 

Valentine's Day: One Last Thing!

Well actually its the first thing since most of us put on our underlings before we get dressed.  If your in an intimate relationship and are in a good place where intimacy is on the menu this is for you. 

Don't forget the lingerie/sexy undergarments.  Go to a Lingerie shop or just hit the Mall.  There are plenty of little sexy shops with treats etc.  Go for it!

If your guy is just the best thing since Santa Claus and the napkin then you should want to treat him especially nice after a lovely evening of wining and dining.  Here's your chance to sweep him off his feet.  How about have some special candles and wine waiting for both of you when you get back home.  Make it seem as if nothing special is going on and POW slam dunk him with light music ready to push play, wine, candle light ready to just be lit and a nice dance with you revealing your  sexy lingerie and sexy hair just for him.  You Go Girl! 

It will be the highlight of both of your nights.  And he will be so thankful you are his. 

Here's to having a romantic night!  Cheers!

Kimberly