Is It Okay To Date A Separated Man?

Hello Ladies!

Happy Friday to you, it's a beautiful day here in Chicago.  So what's up with that question right?  I myself had been keeping conversation and heavy thoughts about a man I'd met not too long ago.  He mentioned that he was Separated and it went over my head for about five minutes and I went back to the conversation and asked a few questions that I felt he really never honestly answered.  I thought so Separated is still Married.  So your married!!?  Oh no! I was so bummed.  So I got myself all excited about an unavailable man.  Your thinking what I'm thinking; how did that happen to me?  My answer is, I really don't know what happened.  He let me know he was Separated but he waited until I was really into him to tell me the real details which were;  I'm never getting a divorce for this and that reason.  And I felt he was kind of mean about it on the phone because he didn't want to really talk about it.  I'm thinking your not the only person in the room I have feelings over here.  But my response to the reality of the situation was I have got to get out of this thing whatever it is before I put myself in a bad place.  This was my first love interest in a very long time so I was mortified that the guy I liked was basically in a corrupt marriage situation, Separated.  I'm thinking, well get a divorce???  Then I came to myself and knew I had to end it.  Literally, stop it in its tracks in the beginning before I fall in love, before sex, before anything else!

I'm going to keep it simple with the facts:

• Married is Married. 
• Separated is Married.
• Don't Fool Yourself he's Married and Doesn't want a Divorce
• He will never be your Husband, Oh because he's totally Married.    

It's morally wrong as a Christian to even get involved in something this messy especially if you are praying for a committed relationship.  It doesn't work, not to mention all the bad Carma your going to end up creating for yourself.  It's just not worth it.  And while your thinking about the yummy passionate kisses you had with this person think about his wife.  Even if they no longer live together, it's irresponsible and lazy. You just have to walk away from this crap.  It's nonsense and honestly a false profit.  Unfortunately, it does nothing for the Single completely free of baggage person to be involved with a Separated person.

In the end, if you go this route you will probably end up with a broken heart and not getting what you want.  Don't settle in your life.  Be the leading lady in your Story.

God says your worth everything!

As always,
Happy Dating & God Bless!

Kimberly.

Summertime Dating! Hooray!

Hello Ladies!

It's Summertime and its time to make things happen in our dating lives.  Picture this, a woman complaining for the past 3 months saying how she never meets anyone.  But guess what, she's not doing anything to say to the UNIVERSE that she wants a date.  This means we have to be proactive when nothing is happening.  I believe that if you put action to the things you are trying to attain that action will give us RESULTS!  So this is what I want to share with you!  You're going to date this year and you are going to successfully find your mate. Not because I say so but because more action causes more results!

I'm going to give you the tools to make this Summer the summer you tell the Universe, THIS IS FOR ME!  So now that we've decided we can control the energy we give off let's move forward.

1.  Let's start with positive mindsets.  Nothing grows in negativity.  Lose it.  It's holding you back.
2.  Start exercising.  It makes you happy and keeps you in shape.
3.  Its Time To Shop!  Yes, Ladies, that old thing you call a dress is old.  Throw it out and get some new stuff if possible.  Buy some shoes and accessories too.  It makes a difference.
4.  Less is more. Makeup that is.  Please don't smother your face with makeup.  A man likes to keep it simple.  Easy, Breezy, Beautiful.  Maybe a light application of makeup if needed but keep it light.  If this becomes something serious he may see you without makeup and be scared to death!
5. Meditate.  Relax and go into dating this Summer with an open mind.  Whatever baggage you had let it go!  You can't cultivate something new and exciting being broken inside.
6. Last but not least prepare to look and feel beautiful and confident.  Everyone loves a confident person!

I'm wishing you all success in every area of your life.  Go out there and strut your stuff!

Kimberly

Planning For The Future

Hi Ladies,

It's been a while since Ive written to you and I'm sure your wondering why.  Well, Ive been a little busy planning a little family of my very own.  I'm pregnant and excited about whats around the corner!  There is currently not a plus 1 in the picture however I'm planning for a wonderful man that will come into my life exactly at the right time when I'm ready.  Right now is the time for being pregnant and happy. 

I'm having a great pregnancy spending time with family and friends.  New pregnancy discoveries each week, making new friends with other pregnant ladies and eating things I never would eat.  Last night I had a good time at my Aquatics class.  It was nice to move around in the water and see other people after work.  Got some sunshine and fresh air and that felt nice.  I spend most of my time planning the baby's room decor, looking forward to my New Parent 101 Courses at the hospital coming up and doing a bit of shopping for my new bundle of joy that's coming. 

As you know in the pass I have been a strong advocate for Artificial Insemination as an option.  This is due to the fact that as women we have a time clock.  And no amount of dating can stop that from happening if you just happen to not meet your Husband in that time frame.  As I was dating I just couldn't find a great guy to date and mate with long term.  I've been engaged and I've broken an engagement but it didn't happen yet.  Noticing that the clock was ticking I realized I had some important choices to make.  I didnt have a penis partner so I said Hey!  I've got to make this happen and so I prayed, ate a fertility diet and watched You Tube Fertility Videos to make myself as fertile as I could and the good Lord has blessed me.  Life is good and this is my journey.  I hope that you wont ever be afraid to follow your dreams no matter what the circumstances are.

Always believe that God has something good waiting for you!

God Bless & As Always Happy Dating.

Love,
Kimberly

The Shape Of Your Heart........

Happy Monday Ladies!  So good to be alive and living with expectancy.  I wanted to share with you something that happened to me this weekend that wasn't so great.  The reason  I'm sharing this with you is because it's so important to me that I show you that I'm not perfect and I also experience challenging situations in my love life.  Got me thinking about the shape of my heart and how I can never allow someone to crush it.  Everybody is not a nice person. 

Here's the scenario:  It's Saturday and I'm having an awesome day!  The sun is out and I've gotten my workout done, ran a few errands that were high on the priority list and now I have the entire day free to do whatever I want.  I ended up going to a Beer Festival in my area which seem like a good idea.  My best friend and I go over to the event happy as we both can be.  We were both hoping to meet some new men in the process of listening to good music and feeling some good energy.

Everything is perfect and then my ex-boyfriend walks in with a woman who wasn't attractive at all.  She was like 20 years older and she looked it.  He looked old and had on an old mans outfit in my opinion.  LOL.  But really being serious here.  He'd just text me saying he wanted to see and talk to me.  He at one point tried to pretend they weren't together by slowing down his walk waaay behind her until she turned around and he was given a look of disdain.  He's an old creep.  I thought I'd do something different and not be so anal.  He seemed nice and professional and stable, I thought.  Hah!  Even with that I was hurt and really upset that this had occurred. Sure he kept looking at me over and over again because in my opinion what's not to like.  LOL  No but getting serious again, I was really upset and the margarita I was drinking wasn't helping me.  I looked happy and pretty doing a great job covering in a public place but I felt hurt and totally blindsided by this situation.  We stayed for about two hours and my bestfriend could feel that I was hurting through my smiling face and fake dance moves to the live band.  She suggested we leave and with a nod we exited the bad energy that floated across the lot. 

The bright side of what has happened is that I was able to really access the whole situation.  He wasn't what I wanted anyway so there was no real loss.  Plus even though he reached back out days before means he's a liar.     So really it was like my ego had to take a hit for me to raise my standards back up and completely close that door in my mind. Ladies don't downgrade or settle, get what you want.  The minute you settle you end up getting even less than you settled for.  Save that one!

Moving forward is always a good idea when your moving away from and out of BAD ENERGY.  Someone once said, "It's better to be alone than in bad company".  And with that I say to you, stay inspired, positive and open to the possibility that something great is coming!

Goodbye to bad rubbish.  Maintain the wonderful shape of your heart and never let someone try to destroy it.  As always beautiful ladies be well!

Love,

Kimberly 

Like Who Likes You!

I was having a conversation with some friends and we were talking about how the men that we like are unattainable and have commitment issues "aka" not interested in commitment at all.  Sound like a familiar conversation?  Well that's because its unfortunately a common discussion between ladies. Here's the problem, we've got to start liking the people that like us.  That sounded so easy didn't it?  Well that's because it is.  Why go on carrying the torch for some clown who doesn't dig you?  BYE!  Tell him BYE!  No one needs that kind of torture so stop doing it to yourself.  Give yourself a break, dating is hard enough without you kicking yourself when your down. 

Here's what your gong to do now.  Your going to get back up and start looking up from where you are and notice all the wonderful men around you that want to take you out for dinner,  call you and ask you how you are, court you incessantly and eventually, commit to you in a relationship. Yes its just that easy!  You have to look into the men who are totally into you.  Not the scary guys but that cute nice guy that you have totally over looked. Now get to it and let me know how it goes.  If it's not a love match, there's always online dating. 

Best of Love To You! 

Kimberly

Full Bush vs Cleanly Shaven. What Do The Men Want?

As simple a decision I believe this to be it apparently gets mixed reviews from the ladies.  I can't understand why a lady would walk around with a bunch of hair in her pants.  It's just not okay.  I was in the gym locker room the other day and spotted a women who not only was the most comfortable being naked but stayed that way for more than ten minutes with a FULL BUSH.  It was like she wanted people to see her unsanitary private parts.  I was totally disgusted.

I asked some of my male friends what they thought and most of them said they thought it was sexy when a woman cared to have it waxed, shaved or even waxed in a special trimmed down shape.  Ladies please, please, please, keep your privates clean and clear of an abundance of HAIR.  It can cause an increase in bacteria in that area and cause a yeast infection.  YUK! 

So hopefully this will motivate you to clean it up! 

As always happy and healthy dating.

Love & Light!

Kimberly

He Should Like Me The Way I Am!

Hello Ladies!

It's been a while since I've shared with you.  I always find it interesting to talk to other women about their ideas about dating.  Usually I'm shocked at some of the things I hear and just try to guide them in a direction that makes sense.  I was recently at a gathering where a group of ladies were talking about dating.  One of the ladies talked about how a guy recently backed out after only one date.  They met on Match.com and he told her that the picture was a bit thinner than her current size.  She was upset that he told her she didn't look like the same girl and felt he was lied to.  I had to intervene and ask her "why did you think he was wrong?"  She said well he should like me the way I am.  She went on to tell how they spoke on the phone several times and hit it off. 

I went on to tell her as much as she may be a beautiful person on the inside and outside to herself no one has to take her at all.  Ladies, you have to know that esthetics are important and we have to present what we expect.  If you want an attractive, smart and charismatic person you need to mirror that to some extent.  You cant just let yourself go and get mad when the opposite sex rejects you. We have to take care of the outside and the inside of our temple. 

This was a hard conversation to have, nonetheless it had to happen.  Remember to always present the best version of yourself!  You may only get one chance.  Good luck dating. 


Love & Light! 

Kimberly

First Date Magic - Can It Happen?

 

It's the perfect Saturday night and you have a date!  It's date night all over the world so no wonder why a beautiful woman like you wouldn't be excited for such an outing.  So can you have MAGIC on a first date?  Absolutely. 
Here's a glimpse of what that may look like:
You've spent special time choosing the right dress and shoes, getting your nails and hair done all so you can hear those magic words, "You look amazing!"  You sit across from your handsome suitor wondering what he's thinking and then as he's talking to you in great detail about the wonders of the world he touches your hand and holds it and you smile on the inside.  A clear indicator that the eagle has landed and he is definitely buying whatever you are selling.  And whats not to like right?  Your smart, beautiful and obviously a great catch.  The two of you like each other enough to go to another venue for a drink to further extend the great moment that appears to be building in the beginning stages that will possibly lead to a second date.  You stare into each others eyes laughing, smiling and blushing.  The night is a hit and you are so glad you said yes to this date.  As you end your evening walking hand and hand your thinking this was a pretty great night.  Then poof!  It's MAGIC.  He kisses you and all of a sudden everything around you moves in slow motion.

In my opinion if your not having moments like that its time to get out and start dating.  You can't meet him at home unless he's a service professional coming to the house.  But thats not a typical option. But really magic can happen between two people who have genuine chemistry for each other. However you have to be open to the possibility of...........  You may go on 2, 3, 4 bad dates and then POOF!  MAGIC Happens. Yes Magic ladies!

Get out your dresses and heels and get dating! Your magic could be right around the corner.

Inspiration:  If you don't change your behavior nothing will change!  It's time to LEAP.....

Same Night Hook Ups - Are You A Slut?

 

This is a tricky and old subject however I think a lot of people still need some guidance when it comes to knowing the basics of dating.  If your interested in reading my Dating 101 post please go through the posts and have a read and update yourself!

In any case ladies if you want these men to respect you and treat you the way you always imagined a man would treat you, you have got to resist jumping into bed with guys the first day you meet or go out to dinner with them. There's a name that they may call you after this one night of bad judgement.  Actually a few names that I wont list here as I believe we already know what they are.  Besides it not being a good look its simply not safe!  There are sexually transmitted diseases that you could be exposing yourselves to.  You have to be a smarter, savvier and more sophisticated lady in the way you carry yourself.  I'm hoping that I wont have to review this again and that you ladies are set straight.  So I'll leave you with this, from the mouth of my Grandfather to his daughters growing up, "Don't Step Out Your Step In's".

On that note be well, be safe, be gracious, be a lady.

Positive Note:  There is nothing wrong with you.  You are the apple of Gods eye.  You are perfectly made and deserve the very very best always!

How To Break Out After A Break Up! Special Edition

I know it's a sad story but sometimes things don't workout and two people who couldn't get enough of each other decide to go their separate ways.  So your probably wondering what you should do now?  Well, first your going to lick your wounds and that means giving yourself sometime to heal.  Spend sometime nurturing yourself, writing in your journal to clear your mind.  It's natural to go over and over in your mind how everything went so wrong that lead to you breaking up.  Go over it and then make a decision to get past it and get on with the good things God has in store for your life. 

Here are some things you can do while your getting back to fabulous you!
After a long work week, because it will seem long while your feeling a bit down and emotional. Do these things:

1. Get up Saturday morning and hit the gym!  A great Cardio workout will get those endorphins pumping and start off your weekend just right.

2.  Plan to go get a Mani/Pedi.  Getting pretty is never a bad idea.  It will make you feel better and you'll walk out looking terrific.

3. Get out with your girlfriends! You'll have lots of catching up to do since you were spending so much time with your now ex.  Because your friends love you they will be more than willing to get out with you for martini's, dancing and mingling with the opposite sex.

4. Treat Yourself!  Go and buy yourself something nice.  I'm not talking necessarily break the bank nice but something that will make you feel beautiful. 

5.  Last but not least get some rest.  It's hard enough dealing with your emotions but when your tired and sad that's a mixture for erratic behavior to do or say something crazy.

Also get back on Match.com.  It's time to start dating again.  Us girls don't have forever to just be sitting around holding the flame for someone who missed the bus.  Keep it moving.  You are amazing!

And I know it will be super hard but try not to call him.  Learn from my mistake, I called him because I thought somehow it would change things but it wont.  If someone wants you they will come for you and if they don't good riddens to bad rubbish.  It's because we forgot how Fabulous we were before we started dating this fool.  He forgot too.  Your silence will speak multitudes. 

I know your thinking that it sounds like a good idea but its not that easy.  Well I'm going to say this, you may not forget about him right away but day after day and week after week while your changing your behaviors and actively working towards happiness one day you will wake up and actually be HAPPY!  I know it's true because it happened to me.  I promise you'll come out better than you were before.  Your energy will draw in a waaay better man than before.  As Joel Osteen say's "God will give you beauty for those ashes."  It's True!

So its okay to cry and talk to your girlfriends about your feelings, get it out!  It's totally acceptable with what you've gone through.  But know when its time to stop the sadness and look in the mirror and see the "YOU" that deserves so much better.  Your on your way to your blessings.  Keep pushing forward your going to see the sunshine again in your heart and mind. 

Todays note:  Don't Forget God's Promise!

Affirmations:  Be Love. Never Stop Believing. You Are A Winner. You Are Beautiful!

The Holidays: A Time For Romance!

It's the Holidays and I have to say I am excited! Excited to share my Holiday with special people in my life.  The opportunity to share what God has given you to put a smile on someone's face.  An opportunity to create a very special moment letting them know that yes God is still here!  It's an excellent time to be dating and creating special memories to last a lifetime. 

This Holiday if your in a relationship take the time to allow the man your seeing to create special moments for the two of you.  If he is clueless about what to do, give him ideas about the things that you could do together to create some holiday MAGIC*.  If you yourself have no ideas, here are some of mines:
-Sleigh Ride
-Ice Skating
-Musical or Play
-Concerts
-Ski Trip
-Holiday Parties - Ugly Christmas Sweater Party
-Black Tie Holiday Party
-Tree Trimming at your house.  He's the Guest of Honor.  :)
-Hit The Streets - Holiday Shopping
-Look at the lights with Hot Chocolate
-City Events - Check your local events

If your not seeing anyone special then its time to get up and get out!  Respond back to some of those Match.com invitations to meet up.  Put on something fabulous and get to the Holiday Parties and Nosh with some Hot Gentleman in the City. No point in wasting all that beauty and fashion at home.  Enjoy your life today. If you don't go out they cant meet you and date you!  You Go Girl!  You Sexy and you still got it!  Wink & Smile. 

Take Away:  You Are Beautiful!  Believe it.  Live it! 

Happy Holiday's Dolls! 

He Licked What? On Who? And Kissed You? Gross!

I'm about to get real with you Ladies.  But this post is about Cheaters.  Guys who are with someone but scream to the sky they want and need to spend time with you! Wonderful you!  Okay that's real cute but what about that significant other that he's with.  That girl he goes home to and sleeps with, has sex with.  The girl who he just had sex with in every way imaginable and then showed up to meet you with her still on him and her in his MOUTH!  OMG.  Yes I said it because its true.  Your basically kissing her thang thang an hour after. 

First of all its gross and secondly you need to get your mind right.  Are you sloppy seconds?  Do you deserve no commitment, no truthfulness, no authenticity, no real love, no honesty.  Is this what you deserve?  If you keep down playing yourself into an imitation of life, to visit some girls reality and be happy about whatever you get your not living a golden life, your living a whorish life.

That man will smile in your face, tell you your beautiful but all the while thinking the very least of you. He's only interested in getting what he wants.  IT'S NEVER ABOUT YOU.  And the most patient of men will wait for what they want.  Don't continue to put yourself in a box that says you have a price and can be bought.  The minute you settle for LESS is the moment to realize you've settled for even Less than what you have gotten. 

Ladies Know Your Worth!

Take Away:  If You Act Like It, you Will Be Treated Like IT.

Love You Dolls!  Love. One.

My Match.com Journey! Date #1

Hi Ladies!

I've got news to share with you.  If your not dating you absolutely need to get on Match.com.  I've recently went on a couple dates and it has been an eye opening experience.  My first date was well planned, we went to Ten Pin and then Unlisted for dinner and dancing.  It was a great date but no Sparkle or Fireworks and you know what that's Okay!  We had a good time and good conversation. 

My advice to you is that you should always be open to LOVE!  It's why were here.  To Love and Be Loved.

Take away:  Men Can't Date You If They Can't See You!  Go For it!

Stay Encouraged!

Love You Dolls!


Kimberly

Double Dating: Yay or Nay?

So I just recently have started dating someone who has become my new plus one.  Double Triple Stars!  With our new found love has come quite a few invitations to double date. My initial response is, "That sounds great lets plan it!"  After a few days I revisited the idea and thought "Naw". 

In my opinion double dating is for couples who have exhausted everything and need props to make the evening interesting.  The two of us are interesting enough and props are the last thing we need.  Enjoy your Happy Bubble!  These first moments only happen once you Lucky Girl!
I think double dating is a good time at the right time.  At the beginning it's so important to have that bonding time.  Spending time with that special someone can truly be a time of discovery and fun!  Enjoying quiet time alone, Going on date nights and Cuddling is the time to get in each others nook.  Get to know the core of a person and decide if you want to spend another minute with this guy.  But more than likely if your even considering a double date things are going fine. 
My advice is to PUMP THE BRAKES on the double dating idea for at least 3 months and see how it goes.   

*Be Authentically You.  Love Yourself.  Be True To Thine Self.  Honesty Is Important.*

Important Take Away:  Covet what's important to you

Love You Ladies. Enjoy the Holidays!

Ways and Tips To Be Sexier On A First Date!

Hi Ladies,

I know its been a while since we've gotten to dish but I got busy with life and now I'm back to keep you on track with your dating!

I've found that some of you are still challenged when it comes to what to wear and do to be at your best on a first date.  Well I'm going to give you the tools and some ideas on how to totally knock his socks off on the first date and keep him coming back for more!

1.  First of all remember he asked you out so he should be totally excited that you said "Yes"!  So be confident in knowing you have it going on already with all the right equipment. 

2.  Be the same YOU.  He already likes you so don't go on the date acting like a totally different person.  Be your wonderful self.  Have an open mind and be prepared to have a great night out on the town.

3.  When your out together make sure your not looking at other men.  Listen to his conversation.  This is Field Work ladies use it to your advantage.  And make sure your a conversationalist.  Bring your A game. The both of you will only get to make a first impression ONCE. 

Esthetics:
Rule # 1 You absolutely need to workout that morning.  It makes a big difference in how you feel and look! 
Rule # 2  You have to go for a Mani-Pedi.  Following a trip to the hair salon to get your coif perfectly washed and styled.
Rule # 3  Make sure you wear a bit of makeup.  Red Lips are always a winner.  Don't pile on makeup like WAR PAINT!  NO!  Men typically like less makeup.  Show as much of your natural beauty as possible. 
Rule # 4  Your Outfit! Hopefully its a night out on the town.  Or even if its a Daytime Date you should look stunning!  Wear a Dress, something flirty, fun but not too sexy or revealing. Sexy but not Slutty.  Hopefully you can spot the difference but if you cant you can reach out to me @ Kimberly_Hawthorne007@yahoo.com.

Rule # 5  Last but not least.  BE A LADY.  After all the work you put in don't mess it up by sleeping with him.  This includes oral sex or heavy petting.  ITS TOO SOON FOR ALL OF THAT!  Be a Virtuous Woman and go home with your morals intact and be prepared for a second invitation to spend time together.  You can say Yes or No but you absolutely want him to be over the moon about YOU! 

So I hope this is helpful information and helps you have the best DATE NIGHT EVER!  Go Get It And Bring It Back Ladies!  As always Love Ya! 

Let me know how it goes and also check me out on Facebook for Daily Quotes, Fashion Tips and Inspiration! 

When He Lives At Home With His Momma..........

If dating wasn't hard enough already, we also have to deal with all the details surrounded with the person.  All things being constant something's are simply deal breakers.

For example a friend was just sharing with me how she had met this great guy.  She liked him enough to take it to the next level and decided to go home with him after dinner for a little one on one.  She said the night was going great and she was looking forward to making out with him.  To her surprise when they walked in the front door his Mother was in the living room camped out. 

he looked at her and said this is my mother.  She took one look at that woman and ran out the front door.  He chased her and said what's wrong?  She asked him "Do you live with your mother?"  He replied well yeah sure what's wrong with that?  Needless to say that was the last time she went out with that guy.  She liked him but where can they really go with that? 

If you were in a similar situation would you stay or would you go?  Would you date a guy that lives at home with his Mother? 

In my opinion its time to grow up and cut the strings already.  To keep it simple, "IT'S NOT HOT!"

Make Good Choices.

Happy Dating Darlings,

Kimberly 

Alone on the Weekend Again?

You would think good looks, active lifestyle and a good job would equal great dating life.  If your living on the planet earth you know that's not necessarily the case.  Some of the reason's your spending your weekends alone are:

1.  You picked the wrong guy:  You are seeing someone but he's selfish with his time and doesn't make time for you.  Translation he's not taken by you at all.  Get rid of him.  That's like having 10 old sweaters from 3 years ago lying around in your closet.  If you keep the old ones how can you fit the new ones in that you can actually wear in the closet.  Bye!

2.  You have no idea where to find men your equally yoked with:  If your having trouble putting yourself in an open forum where men can find you GET ON LINE.  There are so many opportunities for solid relationships on many sites.  Stop being lazy and get with the program.

3.  Your waiting for him to show up at your front door:  That's never going to happen unless you want to date the pizza delivery guy or the pipefitter that fixes the furnace.  Ummm did I say Pipefitter.  LOL.  Just kidding.  Anyway you have got to put more energy into your LIFE!  If you don't, it wont happen. 

4.  Your making excuses and blaming it on work:  Guess what? All the people at work have a life and you are choosing not to.  Get up, Get Out & Get Something.  Stop fooling yourself that a relationship is just going to show up out of thin air.  Work to Live not Live to Work. 

5.  You don't think you look good:  Low Self Esteem believe it or not is one of the #1 reasons why women are not dating and are alone on the weekend.  There's only one thing to do; MAKEOVER!  Get a new hairstyle, get your nails done and buy some sexy clothing.  I promise when a girl gets a new look it almost changes her life and her mind.  Go get it!

These are some pointers to get you started.  Here's to that special someone finding you.  If you act like you want something better you will get it! 

Happy Dating!
  

Dating In The Workplace: A Do or Dont?

Most of us really take our work seriously, so we spend countless hours there.  In fact your at work so much you become really good friends with colleagues and co workers.  But what happens when work life meets personal/private life?  Its becoming more prevalent that men and women are starting love relationships at the workplace.

Workplace romances are commonplace. "Statistics indicate that anywhere from 40-47% of employees surveyed had been involved in a workplace romance. Beyond the 47% involved, about 20% indicated they were receptive to an office romance. Considering their popularity and vast amount of organizational and relational implications, they warrant study. Yet, they remain an under-studied topic." (2013. Psychology Today. Horan, Sean)

Some believe it's an ethical issue that in some cases is investigated by Human Resources.  I was told in an interview with an HR Director that this kind of thing happens more frequently than you would think.  She told me that depending on the proximity of the employees titles and department they would be allowed to date/marry.  If those employees work in the same department it would not be allowed and would need to be evaluated and a solution would be put in place.  That solution in most cases was to ask one or both employees to find other work or were simply let go.  She explained that as much as they would like to look the other way, it can turn into a liability to the company should these relationships go badly.

In my opinion and experience its a bad idea.  Yes you could actually find your soul mate at work.  The possibility in this happening is so likely because its like college.  Its your everything, simply because your there all the time and you start to cultivate these personal relationships with the people you see most; coworkers.  It happens all the time.

Can you imagine how tough it would be if you dated someone at work and you broke up?  It would be devastating to both parties.  Somebody's going to be more hurt than the other and eventually someone is going to want to be moved or even in the worst cases quit for another job.  The severity of the breakup could also cause it to be uncomfortable for co workers.  A Human Resources nightmare!

I know its hard but in my opinion try to keep your hands out of the cookie jar at work.  There are lots of other cookies elsewhere. 

Happy Dating!  

14 Signs He's Totally In To You!

14 Signs He's Totally Into You:

1.  He doesn't cheat on you.  Your too important to him so he wouldn't risk loosing you.
2.  He doesn't let a morning go by without a text or a morning call to let you know he's thinking of you.
3.  He takes you out on a real date. (A restaurant that he selected and made reservations to)
4.  It takes him forever to say goodbye. (He just cant get enough of you)
5. He answers his phone when you call and if he cant answer right away he calls you right back.
6.  He's a man of his word.  (If he says he going to do something he does it)
7.  Hell go out of his way to make you happy. ( Bring flowers to your door so when you get ready to leave, SURPRISE)
8.  He tries to be a better man. (He's somehow inspired by you and wants to show you his best as well)
9.  Your opinion matters to him ( Not only does it matter to him but he asks you what you think)
10.  He dresses to impress you
11.  He tells people your together (He cant wait to share with all the wonderful women in his life)
12.  He touches you and holds your hand in public (PDA)
13.  He takes care of you when your sick
14.  Your apart of his future plans (He has made summer travel plans with you in mind)

If you have a guy who is in line with these types of behavior patterns you have a keeper. 

Happy Dating! 

Domestic Abuse: How much abuse is okay?

Most people would think that if a person is being abused that they would leave.  The problem is that the person that's being abused doesn't realize that they're being abused.  So they take the abuse rather verbal or physical and make excuses to themselves and to others.

Is it okay for a husband or even boyfriend to threaten a women? To demean or break her spirit each day?  Its absolutely not okay at any level, but for some women in this type if situation they look at it as being "just the norm" and that things will blow over soon.  The pot can and in most cases will thicken if not tended to immediately.  I'd like to share some statistic's on domestic abuse and to give a view on how bad things can escalate when the woman stays.

• 25% of women have experienced domestic violence which is a result of 960,000 in a year.
• 503,485 women are stalked by an intimate partner annually.
• 4 women a year die each day as a result of abuse.
• On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day.
• Violence by an intimate partner accounts for about 21% of violent crime experienced by women.

The reason I point out these important statistics is to show how horribly wrong abusive relationship's can go.  If you are being abused you should try to leave rather it be mental or physical abuse.  After you have established a new resident seek help from a Therapist to maintain or regain mental stability.
It's hard but you can do it.  The first step is the beginning for your life and the end to the abuse.

God Bless You!

Kimberly