Does Being In a Relationship Mean "Expect Cheating From Your Man"

 

Is it possible to be in a relationship with a man that doesn't cheat?  Well in a heated discussion at a gathering in the South Loop one woman made it clear that based on her experiences in life that its utterly impossible for a man to be faithful. With a full heart she shared how her father recently told her that while he is deeply committed to her Mother he had only been faithful the last 8 years of their 36 year marriage.  She said its fine with her if her man sleeps with other women because its primal and has nothing to do with his emotional connection which would only belong to her. 

 

I thought this way of thinking to be a bit narrow and rightfully so based on her experiences with men and now feedback from her father to back it all up. 

 

I believe you can have a successful relationship where there is no cheating involved. And it should never be okay for your significant other to cheat on you.  Its unacceptable behavior and this should not be rewarded.  You ignoring the behavior and or staying with no change in his behavior communicates its okay, so as a result he keeps doing it.  You first have to heal yourself before you engage on the journey of pursuing a healthy relationship.  When you know more you can better navigate on how to respond to certain situations in your dating house.

 

 It takes two to tango and both parties have to be on the same page with each other for it to work.  But both of you will have to be "All In" with it.  If your going to be in a relationship it has to be all the way as Frank Sinatra says in his song.  I shared with her that the key is communication with each other.  If you suspect your man is cheating I wouldn't recommend sitting around talking to everyone but him about it.  Respectful confrontation can happen, its all in the delivery of the communication. 

 

If you find that your mate is cheating on you and its too hard to bare and even takes you to a place where you cant control your emotions and mental stability.  I would recommend stepping away from that relationship and getting some therapy. This way you don't waste precious time in a dysfunctional relationship, get professional support so that you can move forward in your life to be a healthier happier you.  

 

Giving your heart is a big deal and it takes a lot of trust.  However if that person your giving it to doesn't realize that, its better to love yourself more.  Don't waste time with counterfeits.  God will send you a Blessing.  Never give up on Love. 

 

Happy Dating & Mating,

 

Kimberly.